A few days ago I wrote a post call Unconditional Love and Respect. In it I talked about the “Crazy Cycle.” The other half of the equation is “The Energizing Cycle” Both of these posts discuss concepts from the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
“The Energizing Cycle” = His Love Motivates- Her Respect Motivates- His Love …
According to Dr. Eggerichs once you learn how to give each other love and respect you create the “Energizing Cycle.” I certainly related to the C-O-U-P-L-E acronym for women. His suggestions correlate rather well with David Deida’s suggestions related to the needs and offerings of the masculine and feminine.
How to spell love for your wife (the feminine)
The Acronym for him is COUPLE
Closeness- She wants you to be close.
Openness- She wants you to open her up.
Understanding- Don’t try to “fix” her; just listen.
Peacemaking- She wants you to say “I’m sorry.”
Loyalty-She needs to know you are committed.
Esteem- She wants you to honor and cherish her.
How to spell respect for your husband (the masculine)
The Acronym for her is CHAIRS
Conquest- Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.
Hierarchy- Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.
Authority- Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.
Insight- Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.
Relationship- Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.
Sexuality- Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.
While this book may be a bit simplistic and has a strong Christian overtone it is worth checking out of the library.