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Awaken the Goddess Within, Asheville, NC

Friday Evening Ritual 6:30-9pm $10-20

Saturday, February 25, 2012 10 am-6 pm

 

  • Meet Your Inner Goddess
  • Expand Your Capacity for Ecstasy
  • Transform Your Shadow into an Ally
  • Allow More Love and Abundance to Flow

This is a special day for women to explore the goddess within and celebrate the gifts of the Divine Feminine. It is an opportunity to sit in a circle as sisters to heal, transform and reclaim our power. Come and deepen your capacity for authenticity and self-love.

Cost $100-125.

Facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher. Her upcoming book, Awakening the Goddess Within: How to be a Juicy Woman in 30 Days or Less, gives women tools for reclaiming their passion, creativity and connection to the Goddess.

Love, Heartbreak and Cancer

About my Mother, Freda Morris Belden,

At the moment I am immersed in caring for my mother. She is dying of primary brain cancer. I took her to the ER in May for confusion and lethargy and she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. She had surgery a few days later and we learned it was a very aggressive form of cancer. She was discharge from the hospital to my house and I have been caring for her ever since.

My mother improved after surgery. She made the choice to not to have radiation or chemo. Treatment would only give her a few months and would have a negative effect on her quality of life. She declared she had lived a good life and wanted to die consciously. She has been interested in Consciousness since the 1960’s.

I introduced her to the Buddhist practice of Phowa , which I was initiated into in May 2006. It is the practice of learning how to live and die consciously. Phowa was created by the Amitabha Buddha. The Buddhist Stupa near my house is dedicated to the Amitabha Buddha and I have developed a deep connection to him since moving to Sedona. I t makes sense now that part of my reason for moving here was to prepare myself for helping my mother cross over.

Almost immediately after getting out of the hospital, my mother began saying her goodbyes to her friends and family. She meditated twice daily. She had a couple of presentations she wanted to do for the local Ken Wilber group she was in. She arranged to do the presentations and they were well received. She kept a journal and considered writing her third book.

In July, about a month after her surgery, I took my to Washington state to visit her oldest-best friend. She spent a week with her. I then took her on a trip around the Olympic Peninsula. We had a great time. She was able to enjoy the sights and even hike a bit. She said it was the first time she took a trip just for fun. The last vacation I had taken with her was more than 40 years ago. I am so grateful I took the time to be with her while she still was relatively healthy.

After we returned to Sedona my sons came to visit. My younger son, Josh was the last person on her list of people she needed to tell goodbye. Eli, my older son, had come to see her with his family shortly after she came home from the hospital. Within days, after they left that she began a gradual decline. In August, my brother and his wife came to visit and care for Mom. I took the opportunity to go back east for 2 weeks to visit my grandson, Zev, in Atlanta and attend a conference in North Carolina. During the time I was gone, I realized how much of my energy was being used to support my mother’s process. It was good for me to have some time on my own.

While I was away, she had a drastic decline, becoming more confused and unable to get out of bed on her own. Since my return August 16th she continues to slip away. She is now bedridden and incontinent. She converses very little but responds occasionally. The good news is she is without pain and is mostly at peace. She likes to listen to relaxing music and talks by Adyashanti, Gangaji and Ekhart Tolle.

This experience has been incredibly humbling for me. It is much harder than I imagined it would be. Watching my mother slowly pass into the formless realm is at times heart breaking. What I know as her, is dissolving a little bit each day. Still, her body still eats, sleeps and breathes. Love and sadness dance in my heart as I sit by her bed and send her blessings.

Hands-On Sexual Healing Comes Out of the Closet

I have been working in women’s health since 1984, first as a labor and delivery nurse and later as a Certified Nurse-Midwife. In 2007 I decided to leave the OB unit and become a tantra teacher, intimacy coach and sexual shaman. Something had happened to women over the past 35 years and I needed to reach out to them long before they were pregnant. They no longer trusted their bodies or themselves. I was being called to help women reclaim their sexual power.

Since I began teaching tantra in 2006, I have seen, first hand, just how disconnected people are from their bodies and sexual energy. There is a huge need for sexual healing and sex education in this country, at every level. Hands-on sexual healing, with its many benefits, needs to be recognized as an authentic modality for healing and transformation.

Dr. Christiane Northrup, women’s health expert and best selling author stated, “Up until very recently, hands-on sexual healing has been cloaked in secrecy, shame, and misunderstanding. But a bold new group of courageous pioneers such as Pamela Madsen are leading the way toward a deeper, richer understanding of women’s sexual pleasure as a force for health and healing that positively affects all areas of their lives. The new feminism includes embracing our erotic power, and hands on sexual healing in the right setting can be a very effective way to accomplish this.”

Pamela Madsen is the author of a book, just out, that addresses this issue in a provocative way. Her memoir is called, SHAMELESS: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Somehow Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale: January 18, 2011). In it she shares her experience in seeking out hands-on sexual healing and how it helped her reclaim her sexuality.

Ms. Madsen is an infertility advocate and sex educator. She is an average, American woman; married with two kids, living in the Bronx. On her journey to find herself, she began asking other women how they were dealing with issues such as, lack of sexual pleasure, decreased libido and body image. She discovered that many women who had grown up in the age of “women’s lib” were trying to find new ways to address these concerns about their sexual health and well-being. Some found sexual healers, who used the healing power of one-way sensual touch to help them reclaim their sexual energy and ecstasy.

“Once I got over my shame – and lived to tell about it – I discovered that desire is natural and pleasure is transformational,” says Madsen. “Allowing pleasure into your life isn’t narcissistic, id-driven or the function of a personality disorder. It is, in fact, a path to wholeness. Pleasure helps mend many wounds from body image and depression to the infamous low libido. Sometimes all we need is an expert guide to lead us to the mine of gold we already have inside of us.”

I appreciate Ms. Madsen for sharing the benefits of sexual healing. I am a committed to helping guide women and couples in reconnecting to their sexuality, pleasure and intimacy through my coaching sessions and workshops. See the video  What Happens in a Tantric Coaching Session?

Expert guides in your area maybe called: sex and intimacy coaches, sexual shaman, dakas /dakinis or Sexological Bodyworkers. If you want to learn more about sexual healing please attend the Conference on Sexuality and Consciousness April 29-May 1,2011

Copyright 2011 Crystal Dawn Morris www.TantraforAwakening.com

Women, Orgasms and the 3-Part Communication

The best way for a woman to expand her orgasmic potential is by getting to know her own body. Self-pleasuring (commonly called “masturbation”) is a way of finding a deeper connection to your own life-force energy, which is the power of creation that flows through all of life. It can even be a spiritual practice when it is done with Presence, awe and reverence. Through self-pleasuring, a woman can learn to expand her awareness and capacity for Bliss.

Self-pleasuring allows you time to discover what excites you without being concerned about pleasing your partner. You get to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and find new erogenous zones. I recommend self-pleasuring several times this week. Take your time and connect deeply with yourself. Let your inner body-wisdom guide you. As you touch yourself, stay present to where the energy flows. Allow your sessions to be an adventure in self-discovery.

Notice if any resistance comes up around self- pleasuring. If it does, ask yourself these questions: What is my relationship to pleasure? Do I make time for it in my life? How often? Do I find reasons for not giving myself pleasure? If you are in a habit of limiting the amount of pleasure in your life, explore what old beliefs you have about pleasure, sex, and masturbation. You may be harboring sexual shame or guilt. You may feel that spending time on yourself is wasteful or selfish. Now is a good time to reframe those beliefs by restating them in ways that are sex and pleasure-positive.

Once you have explored the nuances of pleasuring yourself and feel confident in your ability to bring yourself to orgasm, you may want to share this wisdom with your lover. Learning to share how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increases the likelihood of being touched in ways that most arouse and satisfy you. This requires an important communication skill, called the “3-Part Communication.”

The 3-Part Communication

1) Acknowledge the person for something they are doing well: “I love it when you caress me back.” or “Thank you for being willing to spend this time with me.”

2) Ask for what you want: “What would feel even better to me in this moment is for you to touch me even more slowly.”

3) Appreciate and acknowledge the change: ” Oh yes. That feels so good! You are doing it just right.” This communication style will dramatically increase the likelihood of being touched in a way that pleases you and makes your lover feel good too.

As you take personal responsibility for your desires being met, you will be want to release old beliefs that no longer serve you such as, “It’s my lover’s job to magically figure out what turns me on.” These kinds of ideas lead to feelings of being hurt and/or disappointed. Instead, recognize you are the generator of your orgasms. By learning what turns you on and asking for what feels good in the moment, you can expand your capacity for ecstasy.

Expanding your orgasm through the practice of self-pleasuring and expressing your sexual desires adds a whole new dimension to your lovemaking. It is a great way to increase self-awareness and expand your capacity for Bliss. It also adds juiciness to your sexual relationships. Enjoy!

(c)Copyright 2010 Crystal Dawn Morris Sedona, AZ

Women and Sexuality

Reclaiming Lost Sexuality
by Evalena Rose

For far too many women, sexuality is a battleground between the past and the present. Touch and closeness trigger memories of past touch that was wounding or, for those who’ve been violated, devastating. Centuries of repression of the feminine make intimacy difficult for many women as little of our natural, spontaneous and joyful sexuality remain.

Too often, our loved ones instilled fear and distrust of intimacy, a realm where trust is essential. Even if a family’s touch is healthy, messages that separate us from our bodies abound in this culture where, intimacy is little understood. We struggle to own our sexuality again and find our passion, or try to get by without it (who needs it anyway!) to avoid the pain and confusion.

Having been wounded repeatedly myself, I found therapy not enough to bring me home to myself. It helped heal the past wounds, but I still didn’t know how to create an adult sexuality or allow the deep connection and soul contact I yearned for. Discovering the path of Tantra over a decade ago allowed me to unravel the wounds from my body and psyche and open to connecting sexually on my own terms. I discovered my wholeness behind the wounds and felt initiated into arts that have been lost since the ancient temples were taken from us.

Recovery from incest paralleled opening to a deeper sexuality and releasing bonds that strangled my passion. Sometimes old emotions would surface, but this ancient healing path that honors both the dark and the light had space for my pain and anger. I was supported in healing by those who also coaxed forward my goddess nature and full range of expression. Being in a community of caring people gave me the sense of healthy family nurturing my growth (finally!).

Sexual invasions, especially those in childhood split, the psyche asunder and create chaos and confusion in one’s sexuality. It is either blocked off or open without boundaries, sometimes vacillating from one to the other. This shows up in various ways: promiscuity or being shut down sexually, being able to flirt and seduce but not sustain intimacy, objectifying self and other, or rushing to get sex over with to return to safer ground.

The survivor may strive to offer what is wanted, be who you think the other seeks, and not be present, even to yourself, to know what you want — let alone ask for it. Serving as therapist with women recovering from such wounds, I find that to fully release the dysfunctional pattern, one must acquire new behaviors and attitudes, the kind that encourage and allow healthy relationships.

Even women not overtly wounded come from a society that rarely teaches relationship and communication skills, one that devalues emotional intimacy while over-valuing facades. Women are told how to look and behave, not taught how to fulfill their needs and satisfy their longings. In ancient times, we were initiated in the arts of sustaining sacred relationships in the safety of temples with trained priestesses helping us open. I wanted to bring back such safe settings and the lost arts of intimacy that ought to be natural.

I’ve felt drawn, and somehow assigned by Spirit, to help coalesce a community of women engaged in discovering their true nature and entering into a sacred, positive relationship with their sexuality. By learning these tools in the safety of loving circles of women, each gains positive mirrors while exploring her inner world and healthy uses of sexual energy.

I’m thrilled to see a community of women gathering around this work, for reclaiming one’s sexuality is a complicated, on-going process that needs the support of sisters over time. It’s a joy to see women blossoming under the praise and caring of others as they learn ways of being that allow sexuality to become the source of pleasure and connection it’s meant to be. Old coping mechanisms are dropped as more authentic ways of connecting are adopted.

Single women find their sexuality no longer dependent on others or determined by another person’s needs, as they become more beloved with themselves. Sharing the practices within safe boundaries, women gain experience in healthy ways to relate that make their next relationship more fulfilling. Since they get some needs for touch and sensuality met without having to be sexual, they’ll put less pressure on a future partner to fulfill every need.

Couples doing the work together gain tools for moving beyond blocks and revitalize their connection, accessing deeper passions and achieving greater states of ecstasy. The practices are wonderful ways to achieve altered states as well as full body, extended orgasm, either energetically or physically.

Together we can take our sexual power back and discover ways home to our bodies. Together we can reclaim full ownership of our sexuality and the capacity to ask for and let in what we want. Together we can restore the full power of the feminine and live within it. Blessed Be.

Evalena’s site is https://www.tantraforwomen.com/

I just came upon this article on Tantra.com. It was written by my good friend Evalena Rose. Enjoy!

Adopt a clitoris and help to make history

Following the announcement made by Dr Foldes, OBGYN in France, stating that women and children of all ages who have suffered the atrocities of clitoral excision, or female genital mutilation the equivalent of male castration in its barbarity, now have the possibility to regain sexual pleasure and be whole once again, thanks to medical advances and scientific progress. Rael, the spiritual leader of the Raelian Movement decided to help as many women as possible to regain their sense of pleasure and founded Clitoraid, a private non-profit organization with the aim to sponsor those women who want to have their clitoris rebuilt.

Considering the huge number of Burkinabe women who are candidates to be operated on and as Clitoraid received offer from a few doctors to travel to Bobo Dioulasso and help rebuild the clitoris of all the circumcised women, the Prophet Rael declared: “Instead of using Clitoraid’s collected money to operate on just a few women, we should create the first Raelian Hospital, the “Pleasure Hospital”, and operate on all African women, for free, with the help of Raelian or non-Raelian benevolent doctor”.

The planned facility should be built in Bobo Dioulasso, Burkina Faso. It will be composed mainly of one operation room and two additional rooms. We will need about $70,000 to build and equip it. We will keep you posted on the construction plans in the Hospital section.

It is a crime against humanity that today, in this so called enlightened 21st century, women in under-developed countries are subjected by force to participate in the sex trades, are denied common freedoms as we know and enjoy in the west, and in certain cultures, are slaves to barbaric practices such as clitoral mutilation in the name of religion and, moreover, male dominance. We can all help. we can support our sisters, and Adopt a Clitoris!

Also, if you want to organize fundraisers in your community, contact us and we will provide you with hints and as much help as we can.

https://www.clitoraid.org/

Tantra Tip of the Day – Midwives, Birth and Tantra

Today, May 5th, is International Midwives Day. Many of you may not know it but I have been a certified nurse-midwife since 1988. I have helped deliver almost 1800 babies over the past 21 years. I have to say that catching my 3 grandchildren who were all born at home was a highlight. Learn more about it at https://mana.org/IntMidDay.html

I was reminded of this fact this morning when I received this note on my Facebook Wall from my lovely Daughter-in-love:

It’s Midwives Day and I wanted to take this time to thank you for being present and supporting me during three of the most amazing times in my life–the birth of my beautiful children, and your grandchildren. I feel so blessed to have you in my life. I don’t know that I would even have known about homebirth without you, but thank goodness I did. My homebirths not only made me feel more powerful, but gave my children a great start into this world. Thank you for being a great mother-in-love and for helping so many mamas and babies.
Namaste,
Tara

Here was my reply:
Thank you Tara,
Being a midwife and attending births has been an important part of my life. Supporting women as they connect to their power and bring forth new life is a gift and an honor beyond words. I want to thank you for trusting yourself enough to birth at home and for allowing me to catch all 3 of my grandchildren as they entered the world. I can’t imagine my life without you or them in it.
OXOX,
Mimi ( My granddaughter, Abbey, gave me this moniker.)

One reason I felt called to teaching Tantra was to help women have easier births. I have even written a rough draft for a book about Tantra and childbirth. One day I will finish it.

Being at a birth is about being in the moment. The air is vibrant with “life force energy.” There is a smell to birth that is rich, earthy and powerful. The veil between this world and the Source is thin. Watching new life emerge from a women’s body is a miracle every time. Life is so very precious. Those who work around birth and death know this viscerally. I am honored to be a midwife and I appreciate every woman who allowed me to be a part of her birth.

Do you know the story of your birth? How can you give birth to this moment as fresh and unique? Notice what is being born into your life today.

www.TantraGal.Blogspot.com
www.TantraForAwakening.com
(C) Copyright 2009, Crystal Dawn Morris, all rights reserved.

Photo and more info on homebirth can be found at: https://navelgazingmidwife.squarespace.com

Tantra Tip of the Day – Women, Self Pleasuring and Orgasms

Self pleasuring is a wonderful way for a woman to explore her own body and play with her sexual energy. It gives her time to discover what excites her without being concerned about pleasing her partner. She gets to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and erogenous zones.

Getting comfortable bringing yourself to climax is an empowering act. It also makes it possible to communicate to your lover how you like to be loved. Learning to communicate how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increase the likelihood of being touched the way that most pleases you.

Try this: Self-pleasure several times this week. As you pleasure yourself stay very present, noticing what you like in enough detail that you could tell a lover how to do it in the same way. Notice if any resistance comes up around self pleasuring.

If you have a lover and feel ready, self pleasure in front of him, showing him how you love yourself. Arrange a time when you can tell him how you like to be loved as he pleasures you.

C)Copyright 2009, Crystal Dawn Morris, all rights reserved.
www.TantraForAwakening.com
www.TantraGal.Blogspot.com

Shifting the Paradigm-"Should Women Rule the World?"

Yesterday, I posted a blog titled, “Should Women Rule the World?” This was not my title, it was the title of an email I recieved, that I thought was provocative and would be interesting to post here. I want to clarify my thoughts on the subject.

I don’t even believe in the concept of anybody ruling the world. I want to see a world where instead of a desire to rule over the world there was a desire to tend the world for the benefit of all beings. My view is not that we should value feminine over masculine but that we see that they both have valuable gifts to offer and that both be appreciate equally. The world would be far better off if all humans had acess to the full spectrum of both masculine and feminine wisdom. I believe that many on the Tantra path are integrating these aspects in ourselves so we can be more whole wise beings.

Until that happens wouldn’t it be great if the feminine perspective was included more in the political and world scene. One of the clips on the link I posted, showed a panel of men (no women) trying to figure out a response to the ecomomic crisis. The point of the clip being that men are more short-sighted and willing to take greater risks, while women take a more cautious view and consider the future more. When one point of view is excluded there are bound to be blind spots they create problems.

I believe including women in policy-making all over the world is a start, but often women working in male dominated fields loose their feminine prespective, in an effort to be accepted they become one of the boys. So it is not just about women doing it or doing it better. There are men in the world who carry the feminine prespective as well. It is about learning to trust that by honoring both feminine and masculine we can create a healthier and happier world. This honoring begins within each one of us, as we become more aware of our inner male and female sides. I believe that exploring the inner masculine and inner feminine is an important part of shifting the paradigm from one of domination to one of partnership.