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Tantra Tip of the Day – Remove the Barriers to Love

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi

My friend Zannie sent me this comment and below is my response. Crystal, great quote from a master of love. How does this relate to your personal experiences with seeking love/removing barriers to the same? I’d love to know…! xo, Zannie

Zannie,
My experience is that everyday is an opportunity to see where I close. When I am aware, I allow myself to open in that moment, to love. The past nine years have been a lesson in letting go of what I think love is supposed to look and feel like. I have come closer and closer to recognizing I am love in form and so is everything and everyone around me. This is easiest with my grandchildren, family and friends. It is more challenging with people who are creating pain and suffering for others, especially, people in power who choose war over peace and pollution over sustainability.

What is your experience?

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Tantra Tip of the Day – Loving Every Moment

A Valentine’s Day Gift for You

I received this as a teaching in the fall of 2001. It came to me while I was meditating at a woman’s retreat in Montana. This was during a particularly challenging time in my life when a lot of fear and pain was arising. Over the next couple of days as I practiced “Loving every moment,” my heart opened. I felt a deep sense of peace and great joy, independent of what was happening around me. As a parting gift I created 36 little hearts out of paper and wrote these words on each of them. I gave one to each of the women at the retreat. I still have mine on the altar on top of my computer desk. It reminds me to live in the moment with an open heart.

One of the most important teachings of the Buddha, is that suffering arises out of grasping and aversion. When we experience something good we want more or we don’t want it to change. When we experience something challenging or painful we want it to stop or we push it away. Both actions cause us to suffer. Isn’t this the basic premise of every love story we have ever been told.

“Loving Every Moment,” means allowing what is, to be as it is, without judging it as good or bad. It means keeping our heart open and being the love we are, no matter what happens. When pain or fear arises the tendency is to protect our heart by shutting it down and putting on armor to protect ourselves. In the act of protecting our hearts, we cut ourselves off from the very thing we long for, which is Love. We long to love and be loved. In truth our deepest desire is to know that we are Love in form.

I invite you to try “Loving every moment,” during the month of February. Witness your heart opening and closing. Notice the habit of defending yourself. What happens the moment before your heart closes? What happens when you keep your heart open and allow the love to flow even in the face of pain and fear? How do you feel when your heart is closed? Does the world look and feel different when you able to Love the moment? How to people respond to you when you stay open? Do they see the Love you are? Do you know yourself as Love? Remember to Love yourself as you are, even when you are unable to “Love the moment.”

I would be interested in hearing about your experiences. Please leave a comment or send me an email. www.TantraForAwakening.com
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Tantra Tip of the Day- Open to Desire

I am reading a great book called Open to Desire -Embracing a Lust for Life, Insights from Buddhism and Psychotherapy by Mark Epstein MD. In it he talks about how desire can be used to Awaken to our Divine nature. In one chapter he mentions how women often have trouble voicing their desires. Reading that helped me to looked at my desire to recieve help from others which I seldom verbalize. I highly recommend reading this book and I thank my daughter-in-law Tara for showing it to me.

I have been sick for several weeks and I am finally beginning to feel better. The lesson I have learned is that by letting go of control and surrending I was finally able to ask for and receive help I desired. I saw how I am much more comfortable giving than receiving. I want to thank my son, Elijah for taking care of me when I went to see him. He helped me to realize how much I wanted someone to be there for me. Tara thanks for your concern and telling Eli I was sicker than I let on.

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Tantra Tip of the Day- Enhance Intimacy with Healing Touch

Tantra teaches that touch can be very powerful when used with the intent to heal and awaken another person. With an open mind and some practice anyone can learn how to give and receive Tantric healing touch. Learning how to give and receive touch with presence offers many benefits.

1) The body relaxes open and releases blocked energy.
2) It increases awareness and supports whole-body healing.
3) It awakens the senses, allowing ecstatic energy expand and flow.
4) It creates a conscious connection between the giver and the receiver.

Set aside some time to share healing touch with a friend or lover. Shut off the phones and make sure you won’t be disturbed for at least an hour or two. This kind of touch can be done clothed, partially clothed or nude, depending on your level of comfort. Create a comfortable place to practice. The area needs to be warm, clutter free, with soft lighting and relaxing music. You can work on a massage table, the floor or a bed.

Do a Heart Salutation. In Tantra we use the Sanskrit word, Namaste’ which means I honor the Divine in you, as a reflection of the Divine within me. Begin this practice by sitting across from your partner and looking into their eyes. Maintain eye contact throughout the process. Next, extend your arms towards the earth, palms together. Inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine in each other by saying, “Namaste.” Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

Now, take a few minutes each to share your desires, fears and boundaries. A boundary is what you need to feel safe and stay open. Agree on the amount of time you are committed to sharing this experience. If you are both going to give and receive then divide the time equally. Decide who will give and who will receive first.

The receiver then lies down with the intention of surrendering into each moment and letting go. The giver holds the intention of being a conduit for healing, a “hollow bone” for the Divine to move through. Both of you let go of anything outside this very moment.

The giver begins by connecting to the energy body of the receiver. Very slowly, with your hands 6-10 inches above them scan their entire body. See what you notice. Encourage the receiver to breathe deeply into their belly and make sounds as they exhale. Let your breath begin to synchronize with theirs. As you scan the body notice areas that feel tight, cold, or lack energy. Also notice areas that may feel open, hot or flowing. Gently stroke the energy body until it begins to feel smooth and integrated.

When it feels right, slowly place your hands on their body and take some time “to be” with the body before you begin “doing” anything to it. Slowly, intuitively begin to touch them. Allow the session to emerge organically in the moment, not with your mind making a plan or having a goal. Listen to their feedback and follow their requests with your complete attention. At times you may ask for guidance. Where do they want to be touched? How do they want to be touched? If they don’t want to speak ask them to give you feedback only if something does not feel good.

It is important for the receiver to offer positive feedback often. By saying yes or making sounds, such as, ahhhh or hummm. This confirms you like what is unfolding. When giving verbal feedback use the sandwich technique. 1) Give an appreciation.2) Ask for the change. 3) Say thank you. Here is an example. “It feels so good to have my feet caressed. It would feel even better if you used a little more pressure. Thank you let feels great!

This is an opportunity to practice the art of devotion. Touch this person as if they are a God or Goddess. Really allow Love to flow out of your heart, through your hands and into them. Allow this practice to become a meditation, a melting into the One. End by spooning together. Take some time to share your experiences and then switch roles if that was the agreement.

Namaste’

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Tantra Tip of the Day- Write a Love Poem

Poetry can be powerful way to connect to the Divine. Write a Love today. If you are single write a love poem to yourself or a friend. Here is one a wrote last summer.

Touching You

Touching you, I open.
No words spoken.
Breathing together,
I see God in your eyes.

Flesh against flesh,
Beneath cool sheets,
Subtle waves flowing.
Dreams carry me a way.

Cool lips entice me back,
Your breath on my face,
Warm, sweet as cherries,
I inhale you into my heart.

There are no words for love.
Moments of no separation,
Melting together beyond form,
On a sea of emptiness we ride.

Crystal Dawn
June 21, 2009

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The Tantra Tip of the Day- The Power of Tara the Divine Mother

The River

The river is flowing,
flowing and growing,
the river is flowing,
down to the sea.

Chorus
Mother carry me,
A child I will always be,
Mother carry me,
down to the sea.

The river is flowing,
flowing and growing,
the river is flowing
down to the sea.

This song is one of my favorites because it always takes me immediately into my heart. Then I remember that I am not a single drop of water, I am one with the boundless Ocean of Consciouness. Sound is powerful and can be very healing. Tantra uses mantra and songs as tools for awareness, healing and transformation. If you are feeling alone and separate singing this song can be very helpful. While this is not a traditional Tantric song it reminds me of the Divine Mother, Tara.


Tara is a tantric meditation deity whose practice is used by practitioners of the Tibetan branch of Vajrayana Buddhism to develop certain inner qualities and understand outer, inner and secret teachings about compassion and emptiness. Tara is actually the generic name for a set of Buddhas or bodhisattvas of similar aspect. These may more properly be understood as different aspects of the same quality, as bodhisattvas are often considered metaphoric for Buddhist virtues.

Tārā has many stories told which explain her origin as a bodhisattva. One in particular has a lot of resonance for women interested in Buddhism and quite likely for those delving into early 21st century feminism.

In this tale there is a young princess who lives in a different world system, millions of years in the past. Her name is Yeshe Dawa, which means “Moon of Primordial Awareness”. For quite a number of aeons she makes offerings to the Buddha of that world system, whose name was Tonyo Drupa. She receives special instruction from him concerning bodhicitta — the heart-mind of a bodhisattva. After doing this, some monks approach her and suggest that because of her level of attainment she should next pray to be reborn as a male to progress further. At this point she lets the monks know in no uncertain terms that from the point of view of Enlightenment it is only “weak minded worldlings” who see gender as a barrier to attaining enlightenment. She sadly notes there have been few who wish to work for the welfare of beings in a female form, though. Therefore she resolves to always be reborn as a female bodhisattva, until samsara is no more. She then stays in a palace in a state of meditation for some ten million years, and the power of this practice releases tens of millions of beings from suffering. As a result of this, Tonyo Drupa tells her she will henceforth manifest supreme bodhi as the Goddess Tārā in many world systems to come.

With this story in mind, it is interesting to juxtapose this with a quotation from H.H the Dalai Lama about Tārā, spoken at a conference on Compassionate Action in Newport Beach, CA in 1989:

There is a true feminist movement in Buddhism that relates to the goddess Tārā. Following her cultivation of bodhicitta, the bodhisattva’s motivation, she looked upon the situation of those striving towards full awakening and she felt that there were too few people who attained Buddhahood as women. So she vowed, “I have developed bodhicitta as a woman. For all my lifetimes along the path I vow to be born as a woman, and in my final lifetime when I attain Buddhahood, then, too, I will be a woman.”

Tārā, then, embodies certain ideals which make her attractive to women practitioners, and her emergence as a Bodhisattva can be seen as a part of Mahayana Buddhism’s reaching out to women, and becoming more inclusive even in 6th century C.E. India.

Namaste’

Tantra Tip of the Day- Be at Peace

I saw this video on Facebook and it communicates the peace that arises when the thoughts are just clouds in the sky and the heart is open and radiating love. Living each moment in the Now and recognizing Self as Divine. It is called the Song of Solomon

Tantra Tip of the Day- Beyond Birth and Death

As I listened to this video this morning I was deeply touched by it. I tasted Truth. Please watch and enjoy! Today allow moments for melting into Oneness and remember your True Face.

Avadhuta Gita – Why do you run? – Mooji – Tiruvannamalai Retreat

Tantra Tip of the Day- Learn About Non-Duality

Our worldview is shaped by duality. We see Self/Other, Beginning/End, Male/Female, Living/Dead and Good/Evil all around us.

The wisdom we gain through practicing Tantra, meditation, and yoga as well as mystical experiences suggest these dichotomies are illusory.

Eastern mystics have long spoken of a single underlying reality called advaita, Brahman, the Tao, or Nirvana, from which all existence arises through consciousness. Nonduality is the philosophical and spiritual understanding that dualisms obscure a deeper reality of non-separation and fundamental oneness.

There was just a Science and Nonduality Conference in California last week.
https://www.scienceandnonduality.com/

Here is a page of great links about different non-dual teachers. https://nondualcomedy.wordpress.com/links/

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The Tantra Tip of the Day- 4 Secrets to Joyful Living

When life gets stressful it is easy to contract and focus on what’s not working. You begin to feel disconnected from Source and wonder why life isn’t going your way. It is easy to begin feeling sorry for yourself. Here are 4 secrets to help you reconnect to joyful living.

1. Let go of negative thinking. Stop judging yourself. Replace negative self-talk with words of and appreciation and encouragement. Write a love letter to yourself; put it in a stamped, self-addressed envelope. Wait a few weeks and then drop it in the mail. When it arrives drink in the words of love.

2. Appreciate your body and all that it does for you. Your body is your vehicle for this life. Treat it well. Take a relaxing bath and touch every part of your body and bless it. Ask your body what it needs to feel loved. Listen to your body’s wisdom.

3. Take time daily to expand your awareness. Recognize that you are much more than your body or your thoughts. You are Divine in form. One way I like to do this is by using the senses, take 5 minutes and focus on one of the senses- sight, sound, smell, touch, taste, let your awareness of it expand. Look at the world with curiosity as if you just landed on this planet for the first time. Listen to the sounds of the city or of nature. Smell the scent of rain, food or even garbage. Touch the surface of your desk, chair, or a tree as if it is your lover’s body- with awe and reverence. Chew your food slowly savoring each bite. Let your senses awaken your connection to the world around you. Recognize that you are part of this aliveness that is going on around you.

4. Be generous. Offer gratitude for all you have. Recognize that there are others less fortunate than you and send them a prayer or decide to help them in a way that feels right to you. Helping others is a great way to reconnect to your heart.

When you let go of negative thinking, love your body, expand your awareness, and generously give to others you naturally begin to feel more open, loving and connected. Life becomes a joy to live.

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