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Tantra Tip of the Day – Unconditional Love and Respect

I am reading Love and Respect, The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs. It is written from a Christian point of view. The author used to be a minister. He developed his ideas during many years of doing marriage counseling. While he does quote from the Bible, I found his tone even and compassionate. He shares a some very important points that resonated with me.

He talks about “The Crazy Cycle” – Without Love, She Reacts -Without Respect, He Reacts. This reminded me of my marriage,which ended after 16 years. I remember my husband demanding my respect and me feeling confused about how to show it. At other times I felt he didn’t deserve my respect. At the same time I often felt unappreciated and unloved when my taking care of the kids, the house and working at my job received criticism or indifference.

Dr. Eggerich explains how women know how to love and want to give and receive love. Men understand respect and want to give and receive respect. So we keep giving what we want to receive and neither party is happy. The beauty is that women have the ability to teach men about love and men have the ability to teach women about respect. Once we understand this we can change our behavior and get out of the “Crazy Cycle.”

He points out that there is an acceptance of the concept of ‘unconditional love” but not one of “unconditional respect.” The concept of “unconditional respect” really resonated with me. Men need to feel respected for who they are no matter what they do, just as women need to be loved for who they are no mater what they act. This was an AH HA! moment for me. While love and respect are similar they each have a slightly different quality. I could see that this is a very important bit of knowledge that I have been missing. I have been giving men love when they wanted respect and they have been giving me respect when I wanted love.

Once you learn how to get out of the “Crazy Cycle” He shares tools for creating what he calls the “Energizing Cycle.” I will be sharing about that soon.

https://www.loveandrespect.com/content/about_love_and_respect.php

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Tantra Tip of the Day- Have a Love Affair

When you fall in love, suddenly you feel so good. You walk around with your heart open, smiling at complete strangers, feeling generous, happy and alive. You want the whole world to feel the love you are experiencing. The reason you feel this way because you are completely open to love and have let go of any resistance to what is. The object of your love has allowed you to know your true nature as Love.

Instead of falling in love with a person who eventually will disappoint you by being human, what would it be like to fall in love with your life? Having a love affair with your life is to being present in each moment and witnessing the miracle of life unfolding before you. It is appreciating all that you receive as a gift, without judging it.

Try this: Today, have a love affair with life. Can you remember the last time you fell in love? How did you feel? What did you do to express your joy? Take in the beauty all around you, buy yourself flowers, take a friend to lunch and tell them you are in love. Write a love poem about your life. What do you notice, when your life becomes your beloved?

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Tantra Tip of the Day – Learn to Tell the Truth

One of the most powerful things you can do to is to tell the truth. First, you have to be honest with yourself. Then you can learn how to share your truth with others. It is a common habit to say what is expected, instead of what is true. Like when someone asks, “How are you?” And without even thinking about it you may respond, “I’m fine.” When in truth, you are feeling anything but fine.

Honesty is even more complex in relationships because you are afraid of hurting or disappointing the other person. This is even truer when you are first dating and want the person to like you. Learning to speak the truth is a skill that takes awareness and practice. Years ago I read a book that helped me overcome my habit of saying what I thought others wanted to hear. Mastering these skills has helped me to be more open and authentic in my communications.

The book is called Truth in Dating by Susan M. Campbell, Ph.D, in it she shares:

The Ten Truth Skills

1) Experiencing what is
2) Being transparent
3) Noticing your intent
4) Giving and receiving feedback
5) Asserting what you want and don’t want
6) Taking back projections
7) Revising an earlier statement
8) Holding multiple perspectives
9) Sharing mixed emotions
10) Embracing silence

Today ask yourself am I being honest? Is what I am saying true? Am I withholding information out of fear or a need to control? Notice how often to tell the truth. Take some time to explore what telling the truth means to you.
Learn to Tell the Truth

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Tantra Tip of the Day – Desire: Fuel for Transformation

Desires arise naturally, from the moment your eyes open in the morning they move through you.
“I want to take a  bubble bath with you.”
“I need a cup of coffee.”
Desire is part of being human, to deny it, is to deny your humanity.

One of the unique aspects of Tantra is that desire is seen as fuel for awakening, instead of as a sin or something to be avoided. However, attachment to desire is recognized as a trap. When you desire something and then believe you can’t be happy without it then suffering is created. If you can allow desire to be as it is and dance with it, noticing when attachment arises and then let go, desire becomes an ally that supports you in being present.

Today let desire be your ally. What does desire feel like in your body? What happens when you make your desires conscious? Watch out for disappointment. See if you can let go of attachment to getting your desires met. When you let go what do you discover? Is there freedom in letting go?

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The Full-Body Orgasm Class Dec.6th in Phoenix

Saturday I taught a one-day class in Phoenix on how to awaken the full-body orgasm. We had a great day. Everyone experienced ecstatic energy and learned how to open their inner flute and expand into bliss. This class is based on Margot Anand’s SkyDancing Tantra. I developed this one-day class for both new and experience people to have an opportunity to embody their orgasmic energy outside a sexual context. Every time I teach this class I am amazed at how powerful these tools are and how quickly people can open and take it to the next level. I was delighted to have a member of the Deida Connection attend this event.Bliss is always available us. However,  most of the time we are to busy to notice what is all around and through us. I feel very lucky to be teaching this work.

This picture is called the Secret Rapture by Andrew Gonzalez, https://www.sublimatrix.com/.

To learn more about my classes go to https://www.tantraforawakening.com/