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Tantra Tip of the Day- Enhance Intimacy with Healing Touch

Tantra teaches that touch can be very powerful when used with the intent to heal and awaken another person. With an open mind and some practice anyone can learn how to give and receive Tantric healing touch. Learning how to give and receive touch with presence offers many benefits.

1) The body relaxes open and releases blocked energy.
2) It increases awareness and supports whole-body healing.
3) It awakens the senses, allowing ecstatic energy expand and flow.
4) It creates a conscious connection between the giver and the receiver.

Set aside some time to share healing touch with a friend or lover. Shut off the phones and make sure you won’t be disturbed for at least an hour or two. This kind of touch can be done clothed, partially clothed or nude, depending on your level of comfort. Create a comfortable place to practice. The area needs to be warm, clutter free, with soft lighting and relaxing music. You can work on a massage table, the floor or a bed.

Do a Heart Salutation. In Tantra we use the Sanskrit word, Namaste’ which means I honor the Divine in you, as a reflection of the Divine within me. Begin this practice by sitting across from your partner and looking into their eyes. Maintain eye contact throughout the process. Next, extend your arms towards the earth, palms together. Inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine in each other by saying, “Namaste.” Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

Now, take a few minutes each to share your desires, fears and boundaries. A boundary is what you need to feel safe and stay open. Agree on the amount of time you are committed to sharing this experience. If you are both going to give and receive then divide the time equally. Decide who will give and who will receive first.

The receiver then lies down with the intention of surrendering into each moment and letting go. The giver holds the intention of being a conduit for healing, a “hollow bone” for the Divine to move through. Both of you let go of anything outside this very moment.

The giver begins by connecting to the energy body of the receiver. Very slowly, with your hands 6-10 inches above them scan their entire body. See what you notice. Encourage the receiver to breathe deeply into their belly and make sounds as they exhale. Let your breath begin to synchronize with theirs. As you scan the body notice areas that feel tight, cold, or lack energy. Also notice areas that may feel open, hot or flowing. Gently stroke the energy body until it begins to feel smooth and integrated.

When it feels right, slowly place your hands on their body and take some time “to be” with the body before you begin “doing” anything to it. Slowly, intuitively begin to touch them. Allow the session to emerge organically in the moment, not with your mind making a plan or having a goal. Listen to their feedback and follow their requests with your complete attention. At times you may ask for guidance. Where do they want to be touched? How do they want to be touched? If they don’t want to speak ask them to give you feedback only if something does not feel good.

It is important for the receiver to offer positive feedback often. By saying yes or making sounds, such as, ahhhh or hummm. This confirms you like what is unfolding. When giving verbal feedback use the sandwich technique. 1) Give an appreciation.2) Ask for the change. 3) Say thank you. Here is an example. “It feels so good to have my feet caressed. It would feel even better if you used a little more pressure. Thank you let feels great!

This is an opportunity to practice the art of devotion. Touch this person as if they are a God or Goddess. Really allow Love to flow out of your heart, through your hands and into them. Allow this practice to become a meditation, a melting into the One. End by spooning together. Take some time to share your experiences and then switch roles if that was the agreement.

Namaste’

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The Tantra Tip of the Day- The Power of Tara the Divine Mother

The River

The river is flowing,
flowing and growing,
the river is flowing,
down to the sea.

Chorus
Mother carry me,
A child I will always be,
Mother carry me,
down to the sea.

The river is flowing,
flowing and growing,
the river is flowing
down to the sea.

This song is one of my favorites because it always takes me immediately into my heart. Then I remember that I am not a single drop of water, I am one with the boundless Ocean of Consciouness. Sound is powerful and can be very healing. Tantra uses mantra and songs as tools for awareness, healing and transformation. If you are feeling alone and separate singing this song can be very helpful. While this is not a traditional Tantric song it reminds me of the Divine Mother, Tara.


Tara is a tantric meditation deity whose practice is used by practitioners of the Tibetan branch of Vajrayana Buddhism to develop certain inner qualities and understand outer, inner and secret teachings about compassion and emptiness. Tara is actually the generic name for a set of Buddhas or bodhisattvas of similar aspect. These may more properly be understood as different aspects of the same quality, as bodhisattvas are often considered metaphoric for Buddhist virtues.

Tārā has many stories told which explain her origin as a bodhisattva. One in particular has a lot of resonance for women interested in Buddhism and quite likely for those delving into early 21st century feminism.

In this tale there is a young princess who lives in a different world system, millions of years in the past. Her name is Yeshe Dawa, which means “Moon of Primordial Awareness”. For quite a number of aeons she makes offerings to the Buddha of that world system, whose name was Tonyo Drupa. She receives special instruction from him concerning bodhicitta — the heart-mind of a bodhisattva. After doing this, some monks approach her and suggest that because of her level of attainment she should next pray to be reborn as a male to progress further. At this point she lets the monks know in no uncertain terms that from the point of view of Enlightenment it is only “weak minded worldlings” who see gender as a barrier to attaining enlightenment. She sadly notes there have been few who wish to work for the welfare of beings in a female form, though. Therefore she resolves to always be reborn as a female bodhisattva, until samsara is no more. She then stays in a palace in a state of meditation for some ten million years, and the power of this practice releases tens of millions of beings from suffering. As a result of this, Tonyo Drupa tells her she will henceforth manifest supreme bodhi as the Goddess Tārā in many world systems to come.

With this story in mind, it is interesting to juxtapose this with a quotation from H.H the Dalai Lama about Tārā, spoken at a conference on Compassionate Action in Newport Beach, CA in 1989:

There is a true feminist movement in Buddhism that relates to the goddess Tārā. Following her cultivation of bodhicitta, the bodhisattva’s motivation, she looked upon the situation of those striving towards full awakening and she felt that there were too few people who attained Buddhahood as women. So she vowed, “I have developed bodhicitta as a woman. For all my lifetimes along the path I vow to be born as a woman, and in my final lifetime when I attain Buddhahood, then, too, I will be a woman.”

Tārā, then, embodies certain ideals which make her attractive to women practitioners, and her emergence as a Bodhisattva can be seen as a part of Mahayana Buddhism’s reaching out to women, and becoming more inclusive even in 6th century C.E. India.

Namaste’

Tantra Tip of the Day- Transforming the Shadow into an Ally

The Shadow is the disowned parts of our selves. They may be gods, fears or demons, things we worship or things we fear. When we are able to transform our shadow into an ally we can access a vast amount of energy that can then be used in positive ways in our lives.

I have been fascinated by the power of reclaiming the shadow for many years. Shortly after 9/11/2000, I spent several months working both personally and globally healing the shadow that was being projected in the media as an, us and a them. This work changed my life, teaching me tolerance, compassion and self-acceptance.

I recently discovered a great book that shares a healing method that has many of the qualities I discovered as I was doing this work. I was surprised to learn that it is based on an ancient Buddhist practice called Chod. The book is called Feeding Your Demons by Tsultrim Allione. She has taken the essence of the Chod practice and simplified it for our modern secular culture. She has developed a simple 5 step process that allows you to explore a god or demon, as she calls them, by communicate with it, embodying it and feeding it what it needs to be healed and transformed. I highly recommend this book. Sounds True has an audio version called Cutting Through Fear, in which she explains the process and also guides you through it.

Here is an article about the practice. https://www.tricycle.com/-practice/feeding-your-demons
Here is the link to the CD. https://www.amazon.com/Cutting-Through-Fear-Tsultrim-Allione/dp/159179403X
Here is the link to the book. https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict/dp/0316013137/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b

Tantra Tip of the Day – Osho’s Tantra Vision

Osho was a 20th century Tantric master, sometimes called the spiritually incorrect mystic. In his book called The Tantra Vision, he shares these teachings about Tantra:

1) Tantra embraces everything as one.
2) Tantra accepts everything as an opportunity.
3) Tantra honors both masculine and feminine polarities.
4) Men and women have both masculine and feminine within them.
5) Tantra understands opposites are complimentary, not contradictory.
6) The union of masculine and feminine energies are a doorway to the Sacred.
7) Sexual union is a healing art that can awaken humans to their Divine Nature.

Do you honor sexuality as a sacred healing art? Spend time with your beloved creating a sacred sexual healing ritual. If you are single do a self pleasuring ritual and dedicate it to your own healing or planetary healing. Notice if you have resistance to these ideas and if so, explore what the resistance is. For information on how to do these rituals, see Margot Anand’s The Art of Sexual Ecstasy.

To learn more about Osho go to https://www.osho.com/

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Tantra Tip of the Day – Women, Self Pleasuring and Orgasms

Self pleasuring is a wonderful way for a woman to explore her own body and play with her sexual energy. It gives her time to discover what excites her without being concerned about pleasing her partner. She gets to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and erogenous zones.

Getting comfortable bringing yourself to climax is an empowering act. It also makes it possible to communicate to your lover how you like to be loved. Learning to communicate how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increase the likelihood of being touched the way that most pleases you.

Try this: Self-pleasure several times this week. As you pleasure yourself stay very present, noticing what you like in enough detail that you could tell a lover how to do it in the same way. Notice if any resistance comes up around self pleasuring.

If you have a lover and feel ready, self pleasure in front of him, showing him how you love yourself. Arrange a time when you can tell him how you like to be loved as he pleasures you.

C)Copyright 2009, Crystal Dawn Morris, all rights reserved.
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