Women, Orgasms and the 3-Part Communication

The best way for a woman to expand her orgasmic potential is by getting to know her own body. Self-pleasuring (commonly called “masturbation”) is a way of finding a deeper connection to your own life-force energy, which is the power of creation that flows through all of life. It can even be a spiritual practice when it is done with Presence, awe and reverence. Through self-pleasuring, a woman can learn to expand her awareness and capacity for Bliss.

Self-pleasuring allows you time to discover what excites you without being concerned about pleasing your partner. You get to experiment with different types of touch, pressure, speed and find new erogenous zones. I recommend self-pleasuring several times this week. Take your time and connect deeply with yourself. Let your inner body-wisdom guide you. As you touch yourself, stay present to where the energy flows. Allow your sessions to be an adventure in self-discovery.

Notice if any resistance comes up around self- pleasuring. If it does, ask yourself these questions: What is my relationship to pleasure? Do I make time for it in my life? How often? Do I find reasons for not giving myself pleasure? If you are in a habit of limiting the amount of pleasure in your life, explore what old beliefs you have about pleasure, sex, and masturbation. You may be harboring sexual shame or guilt. You may feel that spending time on yourself is wasteful or selfish. Now is a good time to reframe those beliefs by restating them in ways that are sex and pleasure-positive.

Once you have explored the nuances of pleasuring yourself and feel confident in your ability to bring yourself to orgasm, you may want to share this wisdom with your lover. Learning to share how you like to be loved is a great way to deepen intimacy with your partner and increases the likelihood of being touched in ways that most arouse and satisfy you. This requires an important communication skill, called the “3-Part Communication.”

The 3-Part Communication

1) Acknowledge the person for something they are doing well: “I love it when you caress me back.” or “Thank you for being willing to spend this time with me.”

2) Ask for what you want: “What would feel even better to me in this moment is for you to touch me even more slowly.”

3) Appreciate and acknowledge the change: ” Oh yes. That feels so good! You are doing it just right.” This communication style will dramatically increase the likelihood of being touched in a way that pleases you and makes your lover feel good too.

As you take personal responsibility for your desires being met, you will be want to release old beliefs that no longer serve you such as, “It’s my lover’s job to magically figure out what turns me on.” These kinds of ideas lead to feelings of being hurt and/or disappointed. Instead, recognize you are the generator of your orgasms. By learning what turns you on and asking for what feels good in the moment, you can expand your capacity for ecstasy.

Expanding your orgasm through the practice of self-pleasuring and expressing your sexual desires adds a whole new dimension to your lovemaking. It is a great way to increase self-awareness and expand your capacity for Bliss. It also adds juiciness to your sexual relationships. Enjoy!

(c)Copyright 2010 Crystal Dawn Morris Sedona, AZ

Tantra Workshop, Phoenix – The Full Body Orgasm and Beyond

Awakening the Ecstatic Body- The Path of Sky Dancing Tantra

September 26-27 The Full Body Orgasm and Beyond
Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm and Sunday 10am-6pm
Phoenix, AZ

In this experiential weekend you will:

In this experiential weekend you will:

Open your Channel of Bliss
Learn the 3 steps to the Ecstatic Response
Experience orgasmic energy throughout your body
Explore the multi-orgasmic response in men and women
Move beyond time in the Heart Wave Meditation

In this experiential weekend workshop you will learn how to awaken bliss in every cell of your being and you will experience a full body orgasm outside a sexual context. You will leave this weekend feeling more alive and with a tool kit for creating bliss in your life and relationships.

This event is open to individuals and couples. There is no nudity in this class.

$300 per person / Register at www.TantraForAwakening.com – 10% discount for early or online registration. Location given after registration.

This workshop is facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher, assisted by Jim Miller. Crystal is known for her ability to create a safe space where magic unfolds. Her workshops and coaching sessions give people practical tools for ecstatic living

Tantra Tip of the Day- Be a Pleasure Artist

Experiencing pleasure on a daily basis is important to your health. Pleasure has many benefits. It helps you release tension, clear your mind and elevate your mood. When you experience pleasure, you brain releases hormones called endorphins that make you feel good. These hormones create a mild euphoria that has a positive effect on your entire body-mind. Pleasure does not mean over indulging. While eating one piece of chocolate cake may be pleasurable, eating three pieces could make you feel sick. When it stops feeling good then it is no longer pleasure.Integrating pleasure into your life will help you feel healthier and give you an over-all sense of well being.

4 Keys to Being a Pleasure Artist

1) Make pleasure a daily practice. Recognize its value and create space for it in your life.

2) Practice being present, rather than being lost in thoughts of past and future. Take presence breaks throughout the day, connect with your breath, and become aware of your body. Let go of thinking and be aware of the moment. Pleasure can only be experienced in the Now.

3) Heighten you sensory awareness. Pleasure is experienced through the senses. One way to discover more about how you perceive pleasure is by inviting some friends over and creating a sensory awareness ritual together. It s fun to do this blind folded as this heightens the other senses.

4) Pleasure is an art. Learn what gives you pleasure sexually. One of the best ways to do this is to self pleasure without a goal. Instead of being focused on achieving an orgasm, explore what gives you pleasure and see how much pleasure you can contain, allow your capacity for pleasure to grow. It is also fun to do this with your beloved watching, then he/she can learn new ways to make you feel good.

(c)Copyright by Crystal Dawn Morris 2009

The First Sedona Tweetup and Big O Day in Sedona

I went to the first Tweetup here in Sedona. It was well attended by about 25 people. We twittered about Twitter and made new friends. I saw a couple of my Tantra students. The Tweetups are about people in Sedona supporting each other and letting the world know about our little piece of heaven. Twitter is very Tantric, it is about being connected, in the flow and recognizing we are all one, beyond form.

Come to my next Tantra Meetup, Wed. June 17th. It is free to join and a great by to learn about Tantra and meet open-hearted people. https://www.meetup.com/Sedona-Tantra-for-Awakening-Meetup-Group/

Celebrate Big “O” Day – June 21, 2009
Women Exploring Pleasure in Sedona and Worldwide
Sunday, June 21, 2009
1:00 PM-6:00 PM
At a Retreat Center in Sedona
Offering $50

• Dance Ecstatically
• Embody the Goddess
• Celebrate Your Juiciness
• Relax by the Pool and Spa
• Explore Your Pleasure Body
• Honor the Feminine, Heal the Earth

“PLEASURE HEALS” says Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D.
We must lovingly address ALL our chakras, including our foundational centers, the home of our security and passion in order to be integrated beings. Learn how to awaken more pleasure and love in your life. Mastery starts with enlightened education. Love is an art form and your body is an instrument of love.

As we explore our own pleasure and pamper ourselves we will unite with women worldwide and radiate this feminine energy all over the Earth. We will send joy and pleasure out to those who are suffering– such as people in poverty, the homeless, the hungry, and the sick. All beings everywhere can benefit from the power of the Feminine. That is how the combined energy of all women can make a difference in this world.

Be a part of history. Help create a better world. Spread bliss.

This is being held at a relaxing retreat center in Sedona, AZ.
Over night lodging is available on site at an additional fee.
RSVP Crystal Dawn for location.

RSVP Crystal@TantraForAwakening.com or Call 928-282-5483
Love Offering $50



Tantra Tip of the Day – Honor Your Sexuality

Original Art by Paul Heussenstamm www.Mandalas.com

How often do you take the time to honor and celebrate your sexuality?
I remember the wonder I felt at the age 16 when I realized that making love was a path to God. I couldn’t believe that no one every talked about sex in that way. When I gave birth to my first son, I also discovered a direct connection to the Divine Mother as I went through a long labor and gave birth. It was such a profound experience that I decided to become a midwife so I could help other women experience birth in a sacred way. I teach Tantra because it celebrates the embodiment of the Divine in form and is also a path to moving beyond identification with form and recognizing the Divine as formless Awareness.

Today do something to honor your sexuality and celebrate your body as a temple of pleasure.

(C) Copyright 2009, Crystal Dawn Morris, all rights reserved.

Tantra Tip of the Day- Pleasure as a Practice

Art by Andrew Gonzalez https://www.sublimatrix.com/
Take a few minutes and ask yourself these questions. What is my relationship to pleasure? What gives me pleasure? Do I make time for pleasure in my life? How often?

When you have quiet time close your eyes, breathe, place your hands on your belly and perineum. Drop-in and see if you can discover your Pleasure Body. What do you notice about it ? Size, shape, texture, energy, qualities, sound, color… Now ask if it has a name. Spend some time befriending your pleasure body this week.
(C)Copyright 2009 Crystal Dawn Morris www.tantraforawakening.com