Tantra Tip of the Day- Enhance Intimacy with Healing Touch

Tantra teaches that touch can be very powerful when used with the intent to heal and awaken another person. With an open mind and some practice anyone can learn how to give and receive Tantric healing touch. Learning how to give and receive touch with presence offers many benefits.

1) The body relaxes open and releases blocked energy.
2) It increases awareness and supports whole-body healing.
3) It awakens the senses, allowing ecstatic energy expand and flow.
4) It creates a conscious connection between the giver and the receiver.

Set aside some time to share healing touch with a friend or lover. Shut off the phones and make sure you won’t be disturbed for at least an hour or two. This kind of touch can be done clothed, partially clothed or nude, depending on your level of comfort. Create a comfortable place to practice. The area needs to be warm, clutter free, with soft lighting and relaxing music. You can work on a massage table, the floor or a bed.

Do a Heart Salutation. In Tantra we use the Sanskrit word, Namaste’ which means I honor the Divine in you, as a reflection of the Divine within me. Begin this practice by sitting across from your partner and looking into their eyes. Maintain eye contact throughout the process. Next, extend your arms towards the earth, palms together. Inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine in each other by saying, “Namaste.” Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

Now, take a few minutes each to share your desires, fears and boundaries. A boundary is what you need to feel safe and stay open. Agree on the amount of time you are committed to sharing this experience. If you are both going to give and receive then divide the time equally. Decide who will give and who will receive first.

The receiver then lies down with the intention of surrendering into each moment and letting go. The giver holds the intention of being a conduit for healing, a “hollow bone” for the Divine to move through. Both of you let go of anything outside this very moment.

The giver begins by connecting to the energy body of the receiver. Very slowly, with your hands 6-10 inches above them scan their entire body. See what you notice. Encourage the receiver to breathe deeply into their belly and make sounds as they exhale. Let your breath begin to synchronize with theirs. As you scan the body notice areas that feel tight, cold, or lack energy. Also notice areas that may feel open, hot or flowing. Gently stroke the energy body until it begins to feel smooth and integrated.

When it feels right, slowly place your hands on their body and take some time “to be” with the body before you begin “doing” anything to it. Slowly, intuitively begin to touch them. Allow the session to emerge organically in the moment, not with your mind making a plan or having a goal. Listen to their feedback and follow their requests with your complete attention. At times you may ask for guidance. Where do they want to be touched? How do they want to be touched? If they don’t want to speak ask them to give you feedback only if something does not feel good.

It is important for the receiver to offer positive feedback often. By saying yes or making sounds, such as, ahhhh or hummm. This confirms you like what is unfolding. When giving verbal feedback use the sandwich technique. 1) Give an appreciation.2) Ask for the change. 3) Say thank you. Here is an example. “It feels so good to have my feet caressed. It would feel even better if you used a little more pressure. Thank you let feels great!

This is an opportunity to practice the art of devotion. Touch this person as if they are a God or Goddess. Really allow Love to flow out of your heart, through your hands and into them. Allow this practice to become a meditation, a melting into the One. End by spooning together. Take some time to share your experiences and then switch roles if that was the agreement.

Namaste’

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The AZ David Deida Salon Meetup Begins…

Yesterday, May 31 was the first meeting of the Arizona David Deida Salon Meetup in Phoenix, a group devoted to exploring sacred sex and expanding concsiousness. Fourteen people gathered. We discussed the development of consciouness using Spiral Dynamics and explored Deida’s concepts of masculine and feminine energy and the 3 stages of intimacy.

If you want to join please go to https://www.meetup.com/The-Arizona-David-Deida-Salon/

Tantra Tip of the Day – Love and Respect, Part 2

A few days ago I wrote a post call Unconditional Love and Respect. In it I talked about the “Crazy Cycle.” The other half of the equation is “The Energizing Cycle” Both of these posts discuss concepts from the book  Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

“The Energizing Cycle” = His Love Motivates- Her Respect Motivates- His Love …

According to Dr. Eggerichs once you learn how to give each other love and respect you create the “Energizing Cycle.” I certainly related to the C-O-U-P-L-E acronym for women. His suggestions correlate rather well with David Deida’s suggestions related to the needs and offerings of the masculine and feminine.

How to spell love for your wife (the feminine)
The Acronym for him is COUPLE
Closeness- She wants you to be close.
Openness- She wants you to open her up.
Understanding- Don’t try to “fix” her; just listen.
Peacemaking- She wants you to say “I’m sorry.”
Loyalty-She needs to know you are committed.
Esteem- She wants you to honor and cherish her.

How to spell respect for your husband (the masculine)
The Acronym for her is CHAIRS
Conquest- Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.
Hierarchy- Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.
Authority- Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.
Insight- Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.
Relationship- Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.
Sexuality- Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

While this book may be a bit simplistic and has a strong Christian overtone it is worth checking out of the library.

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Tantra Tip of the Day- Have a Love Affair

When you fall in love, suddenly you feel so good. You walk around with your heart open, smiling at complete strangers, feeling generous, happy and alive. You want the whole world to feel the love you are experiencing. The reason you feel this way because you are completely open to love and have let go of any resistance to what is. The object of your love has allowed you to know your true nature as Love.

Instead of falling in love with a person who eventually will disappoint you by being human, what would it be like to fall in love with your life? Having a love affair with your life is to being present in each moment and witnessing the miracle of life unfolding before you. It is appreciating all that you receive as a gift, without judging it.

Try this: Today, have a love affair with life. Can you remember the last time you fell in love? How did you feel? What did you do to express your joy? Take in the beauty all around you, buy yourself flowers, take a friend to lunch and tell them you are in love. Write a love poem about your life. What do you notice, when your life becomes your beloved?

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Tantra Tip of the Day – Learn to Tell the Truth

One of the most powerful things you can do to is to tell the truth. First, you have to be honest with yourself. Then you can learn how to share your truth with others. It is a common habit to say what is expected, instead of what is true. Like when someone asks, “How are you?” And without even thinking about it you may respond, “I’m fine.” When in truth, you are feeling anything but fine.

Honesty is even more complex in relationships because you are afraid of hurting or disappointing the other person. This is even truer when you are first dating and want the person to like you. Learning to speak the truth is a skill that takes awareness and practice. Years ago I read a book that helped me overcome my habit of saying what I thought others wanted to hear. Mastering these skills has helped me to be more open and authentic in my communications.

The book is called Truth in Dating by Susan M. Campbell, Ph.D, in it she shares:

The Ten Truth Skills

1) Experiencing what is
2) Being transparent
3) Noticing your intent
4) Giving and receiving feedback
5) Asserting what you want and don’t want
6) Taking back projections
7) Revising an earlier statement
8) Holding multiple perspectives
9) Sharing mixed emotions
10) Embracing silence

Today ask yourself am I being honest? Is what I am saying true? Am I withholding information out of fear or a need to control? Notice how often to tell the truth. Take some time to explore what telling the truth means to you.
Learn to Tell the Truth

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Feeling into Another's Deepest Heart

Someone in my Deida Connection Group asked how does one feel into another’s deepest heart. This practice is a great to feel into both your heart and someone else’s heart.

In SkyDancing Tantra we begin our practice by creating a Bubble. Seated across from one another, begin with a heart salutation- the acknowledgment of the divine in each other. Then create a bubble around yourselves to call yourselves into the present moment. Do this with your intention and by using your arms to define the bubble. Then, take things out of the bubble that don’t serve you in this moment (past, distraction, anger etc.) Next, bring things into the bubble that will enhance your connection (love, willingness, presence etc.)

Next, offer an appreciation to the other person (I honor your heart…)
After that, share your intentions/desires, fears and boundaries related to the practice while the other person listens without judgment or commentary.

Why Boundaries? When I teach this practice in my classes, people often have resistance to setting boundaries. Boundaries are not walls, they are bridges. Where two people’s healthy boundaries meet is where intimacy happens.

Your boundary, is the edge that you feel safe moving up to but not beyond. Knowing your boundary allows you to feel safe and stay present right up to your edge. Boundaries are dynamic and can change, so it is important to check in with them periodically and update your partner if the have changed. Here are a few examples: “I need to end by 3pm.” “I only want you to touch my…” “I will keep my heart open and notice if I start to contract.”

Once you are in your Bubble then you can practice Eye Gazing. Begin by gazing into the other person’s left eye. Don’t try to look into both eyes at once. It is ok to change which eye you are gazing in if you feel called too. Just relax, breathe and allow the experience to unfold. Begin with five minutes or so and extend the time as you get more comfortable with the process. This is a great way to discover how willing you are to open, to be seen, to see the Divine in another and to see where resistance arises. This is a great practice to deepen your heart connection.

End with a heart salutation. The bubble you’ve created allows you to feel the support of the sacred as you continue with your practice.

Merging at Midnight

I wrote this poem a year ago, for a friend, after an experience of our minds and hearts becoming one. Tantra has taught me how to relax into the moment and move into timeless realms where there is only Being. When I let go of the illusion of me being alone and separate I recognize my True Nature as Emptiness. All separation dissolves there is only Consciousness,  beyond space and time. There is no I and no other, only Being.

Communion

Midnight words
Heart to heart
Sliding into your eyes

A door opens
Wide and spacious

Melting time

Our minds caress the Divine
Waltzing with the stars
Naked and free

Communion
Hearts and minds as one
Beyond words, beyond time