7 Benefits of Sexual Healing for Women

By Crystal Dawn Morris

What is sexual healing? Sexual healing is the art of resolving the sexual shame, guilt and fear held in the bodymind. When sexual shame, guilt and fear are denied, repressed or ignored,  they can led to physical symptoms such as chronic vaginal or bladder infections, decreased libido, painful intercourse, PMS, painful periods and difficulties in navigating the transition into menopause. They can also cause psychological problems such as anxiety, depression and love/sex addiction.

Trauma held in the genitals can begin early in life due to insensitive potty training, especially if it involves physical or emotional abuse, or when children are shamed for their natural curiosity involving genital touch, masturbation or “playing doctor.”  Trauma can occur due to feelings of fear or shame around puberty- wondering if you are developing normally or being made to fear menstruation as “the curse.”

When this trauma is held in the body, it creates a contraction or holding in the tissues called “body armoring”, which prevents the natural flow of energy, awareness and sensations. When this holding is experienced in the sexual organs, it is called “genital armoring”. Some common causes of sexual trauma for women are medical procedures such as pelvic exams, abortion, childbirth and hysterectomy. More severe forms of genital armoring are caused by trauma from unwanted sexual advances, especially rape and/or incest, as well as from religious guilt related to sex outside of marriage, unhealthy sexual boundaries while being intoxicated and having unwanted sex out of a sense of obligation, to name a few.  Even people without any overt sexual trauma can develop milder forms of genital armoring due to conditioning from our sex-negative culture – which simultaneously glorifies sex on the one hand while condemning it on the other.

As mentioned above, genital armoring can cause a variety is sexual problems in women, including decreased sensation in the clitoris and vagina, lack of vaginal lubrication, painful intercourse, hypersensitivity to touch and/or an inability to feel pleasure or orgasm during sex, as well as, psychological problems such as anxiety, depression and/or love and sex addiction. Often, these health issues are not recognized as being directly related to sexual wounding.

Instead of the root cause- sex wounding, being address directly, the symptoms are given a medical diagnosis and treated with drugs. For many women, this leads to years of feeling that something is fundamentally wrong with them, because the treatment is focused on symptoms instead of on the armoring in the bodymind. Occasionally, a woman may seek out or be referred to a psychotherapist to address emotional issues related to sexual trauma. Unfortunately, most psychotherapists have not healed their own sexual wounds, so their ability to facilitate sexual healing maybe ineffective or, at best, limited. If a woman is fortunate enough to find a therapist who is adept at addressing her sexual issues, she is still faced with the limitations of psychotherapy, addressing the psycho-emotional aspects of sexual healing and ignoring the physical and energetic trauma still held in the body.

Sexual Healing can take a variety of forms. On rare occasions, it can occur spontaneously. It has been known to happen during various types of breathwork sessions. It can occur during energy work, such as reiki- sometimes intended, sometimes as an unexpected side-effect. The most powerful forms of sexual healing holistically address the body/mind/spirit aspects of sexuality while utilizing hands-on sexual healing. There are a variety of modalities that use holistic hands-on sexual healing to address sexual trauma and genital armoring. These include the SkyDancing Tantra™ Pelvic Healing and Multi-Orgasmic Response processes, Sacred Spot Massage, Pelvic Heart Integration, to name a few of the more well-known modalities. These modalities require training and experience. They are best done by an experienced practitioner.

However, sexual healing for women, at its most basic, simply involves touching the “Yoni” (a Sanskrit term for the female genitals) either physically or energetically with presence and compassion. Because genital touch is almost always associated either with sex or a medical procedure, having your Yoni touched with awe and reverence, specifically for your benefit, can be a powerful and life-changing experience. The woman whose Yoni is being held in this way surrenders as fully as possible into the experience. She is invited to remain open, curious and present throughout the process. She is encouraged to communicate what she is feeling and is free to express and release what has been held in her Yoni. As the genital armoring is released, the area may be flooded with feelings of warmth, pleasure, irritation, emotion, orgasmic energy or a sense of vast spaciousness. Eventually, there is a natural sense of completion. The temple gate of the Yoni is “closed” by placing the palm of the hand over the entrance of the vagina with great presence and sensitivity.

A few of the benefits of sexual healing for women are:

1)      Feeling more ease and openness in the body.

2)      Improved quality and quantity of her orgasms.

3)      She invites pleasure through sensuality and sexuality.

4)      Being more present and authentic with herself and others.

5)      The ability to live in the flow which enhances overall health and well-being.

6)      A renewed connection her true nature as unconditional love and freedom.

7)      Letting go of mental, physical and emotional blocks related to shame, guilt and fear.

© Crystal Dawn Morris 2014              www.Tantraforawakening.com

Women Healing Women: Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance

A Transformational Weekend in Sedona, Arizona

April 19 -21, 2013 WomenHealingFlyer

Friday 7-9:30pm    Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm    Sunday 10am-5pm

•    Reclaim your sexual power
•    Honor your body and your beauty
•    Celebrate pleasure and sensuality
•    Transform beliefs and heal the past
•    Recognize the goddess within
•    Know you are whole and complete

Do you want to live in a world where women are free to celebrate their full sexual radiance without fear, where sexuality is honored and celebrated is as a gift of creation? Please join us for a weekend of deep transformation. Access your innate sexual power through hands-on healing and sacred ritual. This workshop is open to all women 18 and older, who are ready to step into their power and want to love themselves fully.

Price $325 (Early bird special-$285 if paid in full by April 5th.) This event will be held in a beautiful, private retreat space in west Sedona, location given at registration. To register contact Cheryl at goodflute@yahoo.com 847-624-8926

Workshop Facilitators

Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and intimacy coach. She has worked in women’s health as a RN, NP and Certified Nurse- Midwife since the 1980’s.Her mission is to be a catalyst for global transformation- to create a world based on love, respect and compassion for all beings. She is dedicated to guiding people to live a more conscious, connected and juicy life that celebrates love and freedom. Crystal teaches internationally. Contact info: crystalsedona@gmail.com 928-862-0762 www.TantraforAwakening.com

Cheryl Good, Masters of Arts in Teaching, Certified Advanced Energy Healer, is passionate about creating dynamic environments for transformation. She weaves her experiences as an educator, professional flutist and Tantric energy healer, into her sessions and workshops, allowing her participants to dive deeply inward. Greater spiritual, sexual and emotional freedom is the result. She is the co-founder of Love and Sex Mastery and S.T.I.R. -Sedona Transformational Intensive Retreat. Her website is loveandsexmastery.com

Breathe Sedona a Huge Success!

Friday, September 16th, was a special day in Sedona. Over 50 people came to the Sedona Creative Life Center and experienced a free day of Shamanic Breathwork TM facilitated by Linda Star Wolf and Brad Collins, founders of the Venus Rising Association for Transformation. They were assisted by a team of Certified Shamanic Breathwork Facilitators and Shamanic Ministers who have been studying with them for the past year.

Star Wolf began the day with an inspiring talk about the importance of stepping into our power and transforming ourselves by connecting to our future-selves. Her new book called, Visionary Shamanism will be released in November and can be pre-ordered on Amazon. She then shared an overview of the day- which consisted of Shamanic Breathwork in the morning, followed by the Shakti Art Process. Then a healthy lunch donated by Pita Fresh, Dahl and DiLucca and Simply Dahlicious Catering.

We gathered in the afternoon and honored the sponsors of the event: John of God Casa, Peace Place Reiki Center, John Livingston, Kristin McGary, Inner Space, Nutrition with Jane, Christine Ryan-Schmierer, Sedona Intuitive Astrology, W. Interiors and Your Heart’s Home Retreat.

We then proceeded with the afternoon SBW followed by the Shakti Art Process. After completing the second round we broke into 12 small process groups. Each group was led by an experienced facilitator who supported each person as they shared their SBW experience and art with the group.

Before closing we came together in as a large group and people shared. They described their process as powerful, healing, transformational, life-changing, safe, loving and awesome. There were several comments about how much gratitude people felt for this free event and for all who made it possible.

The planning committee, who are all Shamanic Breathwork Facilitators, were acknowledged for their hard work. They include: Crystal Dawn Morris,John Livingston, Meredith Davis, John Berry Deakyne, Tracy Roman, Dean Taraborelli and Kelley Alexander.

We ended the day by holding hands and singing a song. What a wonderful day of healing and celebration!

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Erotic Touch for Friends and Lovers

Erotic touch is a wonderful way to exchange sexual energy with a friend or lover. Depending on your boundaries you may choose to include genitals or you may prefer not to include them.  This practice is about exploring pleasure whether or not you decide to make love.

Preparation

Prepare a warm, quiet, comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed for the next 2 hours. Make sure all phones are turned off. Light some candles and put on some relaxing, romantic music.

Conscious Communication

Begin by creating the bubble around you and your partner. Do this by defining the bubble with your arms so that surrounds both of you. This helps call you into present moment  and create a safe space in which to offer erotic touch. Take a moment to look into each others eyes and honor the god/goddess within.  Next, remove things from the bubble that won’t serve you in this process (the past, distractions, anger, worry, etc.) Do this by gesturing as if you are removing an object from your bubble as you state what you are removing. Once you are done removing things you next want to bring things into your bubble that will enhance your connection (love, willingness, presence, trust etc.)

Share Your Desires, Fears and Boundaries

Once the bubble is created, share your desires, fears and boundaries related to giving and receiving an erotic massage. One person speaks while the other person listens without judgment or commentary. Then you switch roles. Here is an example:

“I desire to stay present, open and connect to my erotic energy.”

“My fear is that I may fall asleep and you may feel hurt or disappointed.”

“My boundary is to play with my sexual edge and to trust the process.

“I would like to end at 11 pm.”

Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are not walls, they are bridges and bridges bring people together. Intimacy arises when healthy boundaries are honored. Then you to feel safe, are open and present. Boundaries are dynamic, so check-in periodically to see if your boundaries have changed. If they have changed tell your partner, don’t expect them to read your mind.

Giving an Erotic Massage

Invite the receiver to lay face-down and help them to get comfortable. Ground yourself, see this massage as an opportunity to worship the body of your beloved. Attune yourself to their energy for a couple of minutes by breathing with them.

Begin to awaken their skin by lightly stroking them with feathers, fur or the tips of your fingers. When you are ready cover their body with warm oil and use long, slow strokes. Encourage them to take deep breaths, make sounds and allow the energy in the body to awakened and move. Use different parts of your body, such as your hair, arms and chest. Be creative.

About half-way through the allotted time, invite them to roll over. Massage the front of their body with warm oil using long strokes. Introducing sound can be powerful, for activating the energy body. Try toning with them using sounds like, Ahh, Yumm or Omm.

If you have agreed it is within your boundaries and they seem ready, offer to explore their genitals. Begin on the outside using oil. Go slow at first. Allow them time to release any tension in the area. Listen to their body. Watch  how it responds to your touch. Focus on what gives them pleasure. Try different strokes. Be creative. If you are going to do internal massage use a water-based lubricant. How much pleasure are they open to receiving? Explore the possibility of multiple orgasms.

Close by spooning together, connecting at the heart with love, compassion and gratitude. Help them to sit up and end by gazing into each others eyes and bowing. Offer them water or juice to drink and chocolate or fruit to eat. You may want to share what this experience was like for each of you. How was it to give and to receive in this way?

Tantra Retreats for Couples in Sedona

I am really enjoying facilitating Tantra retreats for couples.

People’s lives are so busy these days it is easy to feel disconnected from your Beloved. It is important to make time to reconnect with your love and desire for one another. A retreat gives you the time and tools to reignite your passion and reconnect your hearts, allowing you to once again relax into loving connection with one another.

A retreat can be booked for one to fourteen days. Each retreat experience is customized for your unique needs and desires. Retreats are held in a beautiful spa-like setting in Sedona, AZ.

There are a variety of sessions and activities offered.

Tantra Coaching
teaches communication skills, sacred touch, opening the ecstatic body, breath work, intimacy practices, rituals and sacred sexual wisdom.

Whole Body Healing honors the body as a Sacred Temple and includes Reiki, Energy Medicine, Sensuous Touch, and Light-Body Activation. I also offer a Sensory Awakening Rituals.

Rituals take you through a deep process of connection that allows you to enter into deep meditative states and merge with the Divine.

Land Journeys include hikes to vortex and connecting with the power of the red rocks.

Shamanic Healing and Journeys learn the power of ancient healing practices and techniques for accessing spiritual guidance.

If you are interested in learning more please contact me at 928-282-5483. Learn more at www.TantraForAwakening.com

Kundalini Massage with Crystal Dawn

Friday, Feb.19,2010
I had a great time teaching the Phoenix Tantra Meetup Group my Kundalini Massage. I created this practice with my friend Gaia at the request of Margot Anand for her advanced Love and Ecstasy Training. This powerful technique activates the chakras and awakens the life force energy that is stored at the base of the spine. The evening was very relaxing and enjoyable. After I demonstrated the practice on Sunil, everyone had a chance to both give and receive the Kundalini Massage. By the end of the night we were all blissed out.
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Here are some unsolicited comments about the Kundalini Massage with Crystal Dawn.

“ Crystal and Sunil, are wonderful, sensitive people, who truly care about all that is happening around them, they are gentle in their teaching style and allow all to progress at their own rate. Very beautiful! ” Todd

“ Crystal presented a wonderful way to share and relieve tensions. Glad I went tho I was exhausted. ” Shannon

“ Crystal has connected well with our group and is able to provide experiential teachings that work for newbies and do not bore those of us who have been around tantra for quite a while. Pat and I had a great time! ” Daniel

“ Crystal was great walking us through slowly to learn the basics of Kundalini Massage. It will be exciting to try this out side the class setting. ” Curt

“ It was great. Crystal is fantastic leader ” Kirk

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Tantra Tip of the Day- Enhance Intimacy with Healing Touch

Tantra teaches that touch can be very powerful when used with the intent to heal and awaken another person. With an open mind and some practice anyone can learn how to give and receive Tantric healing touch. Learning how to give and receive touch with presence offers many benefits.

1) The body relaxes open and releases blocked energy.
2) It increases awareness and supports whole-body healing.
3) It awakens the senses, allowing ecstatic energy expand and flow.
4) It creates a conscious connection between the giver and the receiver.

Set aside some time to share healing touch with a friend or lover. Shut off the phones and make sure you won’t be disturbed for at least an hour or two. This kind of touch can be done clothed, partially clothed or nude, depending on your level of comfort. Create a comfortable place to practice. The area needs to be warm, clutter free, with soft lighting and relaxing music. You can work on a massage table, the floor or a bed.

Do a Heart Salutation. In Tantra we use the Sanskrit word, Namaste’ which means I honor the Divine in you, as a reflection of the Divine within me. Begin this practice by sitting across from your partner and looking into their eyes. Maintain eye contact throughout the process. Next, extend your arms towards the earth, palms together. Inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine in each other by saying, “Namaste.” Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

Now, take a few minutes each to share your desires, fears and boundaries. A boundary is what you need to feel safe and stay open. Agree on the amount of time you are committed to sharing this experience. If you are both going to give and receive then divide the time equally. Decide who will give and who will receive first.

The receiver then lies down with the intention of surrendering into each moment and letting go. The giver holds the intention of being a conduit for healing, a “hollow bone” for the Divine to move through. Both of you let go of anything outside this very moment.

The giver begins by connecting to the energy body of the receiver. Very slowly, with your hands 6-10 inches above them scan their entire body. See what you notice. Encourage the receiver to breathe deeply into their belly and make sounds as they exhale. Let your breath begin to synchronize with theirs. As you scan the body notice areas that feel tight, cold, or lack energy. Also notice areas that may feel open, hot or flowing. Gently stroke the energy body until it begins to feel smooth and integrated.

When it feels right, slowly place your hands on their body and take some time “to be” with the body before you begin “doing” anything to it. Slowly, intuitively begin to touch them. Allow the session to emerge organically in the moment, not with your mind making a plan or having a goal. Listen to their feedback and follow their requests with your complete attention. At times you may ask for guidance. Where do they want to be touched? How do they want to be touched? If they don’t want to speak ask them to give you feedback only if something does not feel good.

It is important for the receiver to offer positive feedback often. By saying yes or making sounds, such as, ahhhh or hummm. This confirms you like what is unfolding. When giving verbal feedback use the sandwich technique. 1) Give an appreciation.2) Ask for the change. 3) Say thank you. Here is an example. “It feels so good to have my feet caressed. It would feel even better if you used a little more pressure. Thank you let feels great!

This is an opportunity to practice the art of devotion. Touch this person as if they are a God or Goddess. Really allow Love to flow out of your heart, through your hands and into them. Allow this practice to become a meditation, a melting into the One. End by spooning together. Take some time to share your experiences and then switch roles if that was the agreement.

Namaste’

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