7 Benefits of Sexual Healing for Women

By Crystal Dawn Morris

What is sexual healing? Sexual healing is the art of resolving the sexual shame, guilt and fear held in the bodymind. When sexual shame, guilt and fear are denied, repressed or ignored,  they can led to physical symptoms such as chronic vaginal or bladder infections, decreased libido, painful intercourse, PMS, painful periods and difficulties in navigating the transition into menopause. They can also cause psychological problems such as anxiety, depression and love/sex addiction.

Trauma held in the genitals can begin early in life due to insensitive potty training, especially if it involves physical or emotional abuse, or when children are shamed for their natural curiosity involving genital touch, masturbation or “playing doctor.”  Trauma can occur due to feelings of fear or shame around puberty- wondering if you are developing normally or being made to fear menstruation as “the curse.”

When this trauma is held in the body, it creates a contraction or holding in the tissues called “body armoring”, which prevents the natural flow of energy, awareness and sensations. When this holding is experienced in the sexual organs, it is called “genital armoring”. Some common causes of sexual trauma for women are medical procedures such as pelvic exams, abortion, childbirth and hysterectomy. More severe forms of genital armoring are caused by trauma from unwanted sexual advances, especially rape and/or incest, as well as from religious guilt related to sex outside of marriage, unhealthy sexual boundaries while being intoxicated and having unwanted sex out of a sense of obligation, to name a few.  Even people without any overt sexual trauma can develop milder forms of genital armoring due to conditioning from our sex-negative culture – which simultaneously glorifies sex on the one hand while condemning it on the other.

As mentioned above, genital armoring can cause a variety is sexual problems in women, including decreased sensation in the clitoris and vagina, lack of vaginal lubrication, painful intercourse, hypersensitivity to touch and/or an inability to feel pleasure or orgasm during sex, as well as, psychological problems such as anxiety, depression and/or love and sex addiction. Often, these health issues are not recognized as being directly related to sexual wounding.

Instead of the root cause- sex wounding, being address directly, the symptoms are given a medical diagnosis and treated with drugs. For many women, this leads to years of feeling that something is fundamentally wrong with them, because the treatment is focused on symptoms instead of on the armoring in the bodymind. Occasionally, a woman may seek out or be referred to a psychotherapist to address emotional issues related to sexual trauma. Unfortunately, most psychotherapists have not healed their own sexual wounds, so their ability to facilitate sexual healing maybe ineffective or, at best, limited. If a woman is fortunate enough to find a therapist who is adept at addressing her sexual issues, she is still faced with the limitations of psychotherapy, addressing the psycho-emotional aspects of sexual healing and ignoring the physical and energetic trauma still held in the body.

Sexual Healing can take a variety of forms. On rare occasions, it can occur spontaneously. It has been known to happen during various types of breathwork sessions. It can occur during energy work, such as reiki- sometimes intended, sometimes as an unexpected side-effect. The most powerful forms of sexual healing holistically address the body/mind/spirit aspects of sexuality while utilizing hands-on sexual healing. There are a variety of modalities that use holistic hands-on sexual healing to address sexual trauma and genital armoring. These include the SkyDancing Tantra™ Pelvic Healing and Multi-Orgasmic Response processes, Sacred Spot Massage, Pelvic Heart Integration, to name a few of the more well-known modalities. These modalities require training and experience. They are best done by an experienced practitioner.

However, sexual healing for women, at its most basic, simply involves touching the “Yoni” (a Sanskrit term for the female genitals) either physically or energetically with presence and compassion. Because genital touch is almost always associated either with sex or a medical procedure, having your Yoni touched with awe and reverence, specifically for your benefit, can be a powerful and life-changing experience. The woman whose Yoni is being held in this way surrenders as fully as possible into the experience. She is invited to remain open, curious and present throughout the process. She is encouraged to communicate what she is feeling and is free to express and release what has been held in her Yoni. As the genital armoring is released, the area may be flooded with feelings of warmth, pleasure, irritation, emotion, orgasmic energy or a sense of vast spaciousness. Eventually, there is a natural sense of completion. The temple gate of the Yoni is “closed” by placing the palm of the hand over the entrance of the vagina with great presence and sensitivity.

A few of the benefits of sexual healing for women are:

1)      Feeling more ease and openness in the body.

2)      Improved quality and quantity of her orgasms.

3)      She invites pleasure through sensuality and sexuality.

4)      Being more present and authentic with herself and others.

5)      The ability to live in the flow which enhances overall health and well-being.

6)      A renewed connection her true nature as unconditional love and freedom.

7)      Letting go of mental, physical and emotional blocks related to shame, guilt and fear.

© Crystal Dawn Morris 2014              www.Tantraforawakening.com

Yoni Talk Listens to Your Body’s Wisdom

In Tantra we use ritual names for our genitals. We call the vagina, “Yoni,”which is a Sanskrit word that means cosmic matrix.  It is possible to tap into the wisdom held in this sacred part of the body. This practice allows you to access the wisdom held in your Yoni. You are lending your voice to your Yoni so it can communicate with you directly. The more you are able to relax and surrender to this process the easier it is to access the wisdom of your Yoni and experience its unique voice.This practice can be done alone or with a partner.

Set aside 30-60 minutes for this practice. Make sure the phone is turned off and let other people in your home know not to disturb you for the next hour. This practice can be done alone or with a partner. If done alone have your journal nearby so you can take notes afterwards. You may also choose to record the experience. If done with a partner, only one person speaks and the other acts as a witness. The witness may take notes if that feels appropriate to both parties. The witness should not interrupt the speaker while they are allowing their Yoni to speak.

The Heart Salutation

Begin this practice with a Heart Salutation. This is done by extending your arms towards the earth with your palms together. Then, inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine within yourself and each other. Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands to return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

The Bubble

Now, create a bubble around you (and your partner). Do this by waving your arms around both of you as you define the shape of the bubble that surrounds you. You will then be removing things from this bubble that won’t serve you during this practice (the past, distractions, anger, worry, etc.) Do this by making a gesture as if removing an object from your bubble and verbally share what you are removing from the bubble out loud. Then, Next, state what things you want to bring into the bubble, these are things that will enhance your connection (love, willingness, presence, trust etc.) Make a gesture as if physically bringing them into the bubble. Creating the bubble helps to call you into present moment awareness and creates a safe space in which to practice Yoni Talk

Share Your Desires, Fears and Boundaries

Once the bubble is created, share your intentions/desires, fears and boundaries related to this practice. First, one person speaks while the other person listens without judgment or commentary. Then you switch roles. Here is an example:

“I desire to stay present, open and connect deeply my Yoni.”

“My fear is that I will get self-conscious and freeze up.”

“My boundary is to stay connected, to feel what is arising and share even if I start to cry.”

Why boundaries? When I teach this practice in my classes, people often have resistance to setting boundaries. I explain that boundaries are not walls, they are bridges. Bridges helps to bring people together. Intimacy happens when people have healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries allow you to feel safe, stay open and be present. Boundaries are dynamic, so it is important to check-in periodically with yourself to see if your boundaries have changed. If they have changed, update your partner so they can honor your new boundaries. Here are a few examples:

“I need to end this practice by 10 pm.”

“I want to stay present and open to your support. I would like you to remind me to open my eyes if I seem to be disconnecting from you.”

Yoni Talk

Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Take slow, gentle, relaxing breaths into your belly. Relax deeply for about several minutes. As your exhale, breathe out any tension you are holding. As you inhale, breathe in life force energy (pnana/chi/ki) and feel your body becoming energized. Once you are relaxed, focus your attention on your Yoni and place your hands over Yoni. Breathe into Yoni and begin to tune into this part of your body. Ask her what she would like to be called ( Sacred Flower, Cosmic Cave or..) Invite her to speak.Say out loud, something like “Sacred Flower, (use the name she has shared with you,) I desire to receive your wisdom and invite you to speak to me and give you my voice.” Then allow Yoni to speak to you, in the first person, “I,Sacred Flower, want to share that I have been feeling ignored lately. I notice you … I would like…. It would be helpful if…” Continue to tune in for 15 minutes or longer. There may be phases as the information is accessed. Stay present with the process until it feels complete. End with a Heart Salutation.

If you are alone, take time to journal. If you are with a friend, share your experience verbally. Take a short break and then switch roles.

Notice how this experience impacts your life over the next few days and weeks.

Copyright 2012 Crystal Dawn Morris. Adapted from The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand.

Crystal Dawn Morris, The Love and Freedom Coach

Contact Crystal@Tantraforawakening.com 928-282-5483  www.tantraforawakening.com

Sexual Healing for Women a Testimonial

Women Healing Women Testimonial

Kelley attended our Women Healing Women:Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance workshop in Sedona, AZ  in April 2013.  Thanks, Kelley for helping us to get the word out to other women in need of sexual healing.

Look here for our upcoming events. https://www.tantraforawakening.org/schedule/

Do you want to live in a world where women are free to celebrate their full sexual radiance without fear, where sexuality is honored and celebrated as a gift of creation? Join us for this weekend workshop:

• Reclaim your sexual power
• Honor your body and your beauty
• Celebrate pleasure and sensuality
• Transform beliefs and heal the past
• Recognize the goddess within
• Know you are whole and complete

Please join us for a weekend of deep transformation. Access your innate sexual power through hands-on healing and sacred ritual. This workshop is open to all women 18 and older, who are ready to step into their power and want to love themselves fully.

Price $325  This event will be held in a beautiful, private retreat space , location given at registration. To register contact Cheryl at goodflute@yahoo.com 847-624-8926

Workshop Facilitators
Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and intimacy coach. She has worked in women’s health as a RN, NP and Certified Nurse- Midwife since the 1980’s.Her mission is to be a catalyst for global transformation- to create a world based on love, respect and compassion for all beings. She is dedicated to guiding people to live a more conscious, connected and juicy life that celebrates love and freedom. Crystal teaches internationally. Contact info: crystalsedona@gmail.com 928-862-0762 www.TantraforAwakening.com

Cheryl Good, Masters of Arts in Teaching, Certified Advanced Energy Healer, is passionate about creating dynamic environments for transformation. She weaves her experiences as an educator, professional flutist and Tantric energy healer, into her sessions and workshops, allowing her participants to dive deeply inward. Greater spiritual, sexual and emotional freedom is the result. She is the co-founder of Love and Sex Mastery and S.T.I.R. -Sedona Transformational Intensive Retreat.
Her website is www.loveandsexmastery.com

Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance, YouTube Video

Crystal Dawn Morris and Cheryl Good invite women to attend their upcoming women’s retreat in Sedona. Women Healing Women: Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance April 19-21, 2013. Learn more at Tantra for Awakening.com or call 928-282-5483. To register email Cheryl at goodflute@yahoo.com or call 847-624-8926

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Women Healing Women: Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance

A Transformational Weekend in Sedona, Arizona

April 19 -21, 2013 WomenHealingFlyer

Friday 7-9:30pm    Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm    Sunday 10am-5pm

•    Reclaim your sexual power
•    Honor your body and your beauty
•    Celebrate pleasure and sensuality
•    Transform beliefs and heal the past
•    Recognize the goddess within
•    Know you are whole and complete

Do you want to live in a world where women are free to celebrate their full sexual radiance without fear, where sexuality is honored and celebrated is as a gift of creation? Please join us for a weekend of deep transformation. Access your innate sexual power through hands-on healing and sacred ritual. This workshop is open to all women 18 and older, who are ready to step into their power and want to love themselves fully.

Price $325 (Early bird special-$285 if paid in full by April 5th.) This event will be held in a beautiful, private retreat space in west Sedona, location given at registration. To register contact Cheryl at goodflute@yahoo.com 847-624-8926

Workshop Facilitators

Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and intimacy coach. She has worked in women’s health as a RN, NP and Certified Nurse- Midwife since the 1980’s.Her mission is to be a catalyst for global transformation- to create a world based on love, respect and compassion for all beings. She is dedicated to guiding people to live a more conscious, connected and juicy life that celebrates love and freedom. Crystal teaches internationally. Contact info: crystalsedona@gmail.com 928-862-0762 www.TantraforAwakening.com

Cheryl Good, Masters of Arts in Teaching, Certified Advanced Energy Healer, is passionate about creating dynamic environments for transformation. She weaves her experiences as an educator, professional flutist and Tantric energy healer, into her sessions and workshops, allowing her participants to dive deeply inward. Greater spiritual, sexual and emotional freedom is the result. She is the co-founder of Love and Sex Mastery and S.T.I.R. -Sedona Transformational Intensive Retreat. Her website is loveandsexmastery.com

WISE WOLF WOMEN’S COUNCIL 2012

A Gathering to Envision and Plant the Seeds
for Embodying the Shift and Birthing the New World

Together, we will plant the seeds of this new world and acti­vate our vision­ary power to conceive it into being.

Friday May 25th at 7pm thru Monday, May 28th at 3pm

Isis Cove in Whittier, NC
In the Magical Blue Smoky Mountains of Western North Carolina

This Year’s Theme:
Weaving Diversity Into Unity Consciousness

Join Crystal Dawn Morris, Judith Corvin-Blackburn, Linda Star Wolf and other Wise Wolf Women for four days of amaz­ing vision­ary ritu­als and jour­neys to heal ourselves and the world as we weave diver­sity into unity consciousness.

A soul-filled week­end of: Community, music, danc­ing, cere­mony and celebration!

Sharing our cultures, Her-stories and wisdom teachings; Consciously vision­ing a vibrant tapes­try for our new Earth where all are honored and harmony is restored, where all actions and deci­sions flow from love, know­ing we are One.

Sponsored by Venus Rising Institute for Shamanic Arts and facilitated by teachers and healers from around the country.

Registration is required for this event. Please download this form, fill it out and return to Venus Rising, along with your land-use fee.

For Registration, Forms, and Additional Information, Click Here
or go to https://shamanicbreathwork.org/vr_event/wise-wolf-women%E2%80%99s-council-2012

*There is a land use fee of $65 for use of the land during this event. Camping sites will be available for a nominal fee, and an off-site recommended lodging list is also available.

Venus Rising is putting out the Wolf Call to women who would like to come work as volunteers in exchange for no land use fee. Anyone interested in serving as a volunteer should contact Venus Rising either by phone or by email.

For more information call our office at 828-631-2305
email: venusrising@shamanicbreathwork.org
mailing address: Venus Rising PO Box 486, Sylva, NC 28779

Applications for Vendors are now being accepted.

Awaken the Goddess Within, Asheville, NC

Friday Evening Ritual 6:30-9pm $10-20

Saturday, February 25, 2012 10 am-6 pm

 

  • Meet Your Inner Goddess
  • Expand Your Capacity for Ecstasy
  • Transform Your Shadow into an Ally
  • Allow More Love and Abundance to Flow

This is a special day for women to explore the goddess within and celebrate the gifts of the Divine Feminine. It is an opportunity to sit in a circle as sisters to heal, transform and reclaim our power. Come and deepen your capacity for authenticity and self-love.

Cost $100-125.

Facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher. Her upcoming book, Awakening the Goddess Within: How to be a Juicy Woman in 30 Days or Less, gives women tools for reclaiming their passion, creativity and connection to the Goddess.

Awakening the Inner Goddess in Ventura, CA

Reclaiming the Power, Passion and Sensuality of the Divine Feminine
Sunday March 13, 2011 10am-6:00pm
Ventura Nia Center, 2343 East Thompson Blvd

* Breathwork, Dance and Nia Movement
* Activating Shakti and Creative Energy
* Transforming the Shadow into an Ally
* Loving Our Sexuality
* Celebrating the Goddess Within

Join us as we ignite our passion, celebrate our juiciness and speak our truth. Connecting to “Shakti,” the life-force energy, we will expand our capacity for Bliss. Through breath, sound and movement we honor the body as a sacred temple of love and aliveness.Open to Women of all ages. Bring a water bottle and sarong. Wear beautiful clothes that are easy to move in and make you feel like a Goddess.

Cost $100   To Register Contact: Kate Nash 805.766. 6755

This workshop will be facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and founder of Tantra for Awakening in Sedona, AZ and Kate Nash, Nia Instructor and owner of the Ventura Nia Center. They will weave together Tantra and Nia, creating a vibrant energetic tapestry for you to explore and celebrate ecstasy.

www.VenturaNiaCenter.com

The Tantra Tip of the Day- Embody Masculine and Feminine

Physically we inhabit a masculine or feminine body and most people identify more strongly with one gender than the other. Sometimes it is the same as our body’s gender and sometimes not. Within every person there are both feminine and masculine energies. Yet often we are not conscious of our relationship to them.

Close your eyes and allow yourself to feel into the energy of the gender you feel more aligned with. Notice how that energy feels in your physical body, mind and heart. Next, allow yourself to embody the opposite gender. How is this energy different? How does it feel in your physical body, mind and heart? Take a piece of paper and draw a line length-wise down the middle, on one side write Feminine and on the other Masculine, below list the qualities of each that you noticed.

Now allow yourself to call both into your body at the same time. How does this feel in your physical body, mind and heart?
Try this: Practice embodying these energies with conscious awareness. Call on your inner masculine when that energy would support what you are doing. Call on your inner feminine when that energy supports what you are feeling. Call on both morning and evening and experience being whole.

Qualities of Feminine and Masculine Energy

Feminine

Surrender
Flow
Openness
Following
Beauty
Detail
Expansive
Devotion
Permeable
Receptive
Aliveness
Yin

Masculine

Purpose
Direction
Presence
Leadership
Confidence
Achievement
Structure
Initiative
Penetrative
Active
Container
Yang

www.TantraForAwakening.com

(C) Copyright Crystal Dawn Morris 2009

Shifting the Paradigm-"Should Women Rule the World?"

Yesterday, I posted a blog titled, “Should Women Rule the World?” This was not my title, it was the title of an email I recieved, that I thought was provocative and would be interesting to post here. I want to clarify my thoughts on the subject.

I don’t even believe in the concept of anybody ruling the world. I want to see a world where instead of a desire to rule over the world there was a desire to tend the world for the benefit of all beings. My view is not that we should value feminine over masculine but that we see that they both have valuable gifts to offer and that both be appreciate equally. The world would be far better off if all humans had acess to the full spectrum of both masculine and feminine wisdom. I believe that many on the Tantra path are integrating these aspects in ourselves so we can be more whole wise beings.

Until that happens wouldn’t it be great if the feminine perspective was included more in the political and world scene. One of the clips on the link I posted, showed a panel of men (no women) trying to figure out a response to the ecomomic crisis. The point of the clip being that men are more short-sighted and willing to take greater risks, while women take a more cautious view and consider the future more. When one point of view is excluded there are bound to be blind spots they create problems.

I believe including women in policy-making all over the world is a start, but often women working in male dominated fields loose their feminine prespective, in an effort to be accepted they become one of the boys. So it is not just about women doing it or doing it better. There are men in the world who carry the feminine prespective as well. It is about learning to trust that by honoring both feminine and masculine we can create a healthier and happier world. This honoring begins within each one of us, as we become more aware of our inner male and female sides. I believe that exploring the inner masculine and inner feminine is an important part of shifting the paradigm from one of domination to one of partnership.