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Tantra Teacher Training in Sedona

Tantra teacher Training Sedona The Art and Business of Teaching Tantra

This is a program that has 3 modules. They can be taken in any order. The course unfolds over approximately 12-18 months. You also get personal mentoring from Crystal as well as group coaching calls to discuss progress.

Register at: https://www.magicoftantra.com/registration

More info: https://www.tantraforawakening.org/tantra-teacher-training

Each module begins by attending a different “The Magic of Tantra” weekend workshop. This gives you an opportunity to experience the work as a participant while observing the group process as it unfolds within the context of a workshop. Following the weekend, we will spend time examining the content, dynamics and flow of the workshop. Informed by this knowledge, we will practice teaching what we have learned within a supportive environment, giving and receiving feedback to our fellow-students. Each day, time will be spent on the art, business and inner-work of teaching Tantra, planting the seeds for success as a professional Tantra teacher. The training can also be done in one-on-one format.

 Includes The Dance of Masculine & Feminine Tantra Weekend Workshopamore small

 Friday, March 17, 2017,  7:00 pm –

Sunday, March 19th, 6:00pm

Tantra Teacher Training with a focus on “Coaching and Ethics”

Monday March 20th –

Wednesday 22nd, 9:00am – 5:00pm

  • Attend “The Magic of Tantra: The Dance of Masculine and Feminine” event.
  • Teach the practices covered in this weekend workshop.
  • Do a self-assessment to reevaluate your strengths and weaknesses.
  • Learn how to facilitate a Tantra coaching session.
  • Start building or enhancing your website.
  • Learn simple ways to use YouTube to find your audience.
  • Begin writing and publishing online education-based articles.
  • Create online products that build your list and create income.
  • Review professional ethics and student-teacher dynamics.
  • Learn how joint ventures can grow your business.

Register at: https://www.magicoftantra.com/registration

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The Dance of Masculine & Feminine Tantra Weekend in Sedona

2-6-06 114March 17th-19th, 2017

At a private retreat space in Sedona, AZ

Friday 7 pm – Sunday 6:30 pm

Join us for a weekend of Tantra. Relationships can be both inspiring and challenging come and learn powerful tools that can help you to gracefully navigate and enjoy the dance between masculine and feminine energy.  Discover how intimacy can enhance awareness and cultivate harmony in all life situations. We will create a powerful container for transformation and dive into the pool possibilities as we expand our capacity for love and freedom.  You will leave this weekend with practices that allow you to manifest a more present and juicy life, full of love, freedom and abundance. This event is open to individuals and couples. No previous experience with Tantra is required.

  • Discover that Life is a Dream
  • Experience the Power of Presence
  • Connect to the God/Goddess Within
  • Realize the True Self as Love and Freedom
  • Playfully Engage Masculine and Feminine Energy

Register

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/magic-of-tantra-dance-of-masculine-feminine-3-day-workshop-tickets-31189805548

or Email Rick Priddis if you have questions: rick@priddis.com

There is no nudity in this class. However there is a hot tub at the venue that is clothing optional.

Facilitated by

Crystal Dawn Morris, Tantra Teacher and Love and Freedom Coach she is dedicated to guiding people to live a more conscious, connected and juicy life. She is based in Sedona, AZ, USA and she teaches trainings and offers retreats both locally and internationally. www.TantraForAwakening.org

Safe Sex Script Makes Awkward Easy

chat-23713_1280This “script” is a good way to initiate a conversation about your sexual history and to ask someone else to share their sexual history with you.  Review your answers to the statements below. Practice saying them out loud in front of a mirror. Next, share this process with a friend or lover. Ideally, this is done prior to finding yourself in a sexually charged situation.

  1. “The last time I got tested for Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI’s) was…”
  1. A. “The tests I had done were…”   B. “The results of those tests were…”

A Comprehensive STI Panel consists of: HIV, Syphilis (Rapid Plasma Reagin test), Oral Herpes (HSV-1), Genital Herpes (HSV-2), HPV, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Hepatitis B and Hepatitis C. Female testing usually includes a Pap Smear and wet mount to check for other common vaginal infections.

  1. “My sexual orientation is…” (Straight, Gay, Bi, Transgender, Fluid…)
  1. “My relationship status is…” (Single. Dating. Living with a lover. Married. In an open relationship with one or more persons. Fluid bonded with one or more persons.)
  1. “My current relationship agreements that you need to be aware of are…”
  1. “My safer sex practices and/or boundaries are…”  
  1. “I use___________ to prevent unwanted pregnancies.”
  1. Share any risky activities you may have experienced since you were last tested.
  1. Then ask the other person, “How about you?”Listen closely to what they say and how they say it…  Ask questions, if you need clarification.
  1. If, after you both have shared your sexual histories you decide to engage in sex, take time to discuss what sexual activities you are open to at this time and what is off the menu. Share you desires, fears and “healthy boundaries.” Healthy boundaries are what you need to feel safe and stay open; they are dynamic and can expand as well as contract. Intimacy grows when you stay present, are authentic and communicate clearly using “I” statements.

©2015 Crystal Dawn Morris, The Love and Freedom Coach, Tantra Teacher, ISTA Faculty

www.TantraForAwakening.org  928.862.0762  Crystal@tantraforawakening.org

Yoni Talk Listens to Your Body’s Wisdom

In Tantra we use ritual names for our genitals. We call the vagina, “Yoni,”which is a Sanskrit word that means cosmic matrix.  It is possible to tap into the wisdom held in this sacred part of the body. This practice allows you to access the wisdom held in your Yoni. You are lending your voice to your Yoni so it can communicate with you directly. The more you are able to relax and surrender to this process the easier it is to access the wisdom of your Yoni and experience its unique voice.This practice can be done alone or with a partner.

Set aside 30-60 minutes for this practice. Make sure the phone is turned off and let other people in your home know not to disturb you for the next hour. This practice can be done alone or with a partner. If done alone have your journal nearby so you can take notes afterwards. You may also choose to record the experience. If done with a partner, only one person speaks and the other acts as a witness. The witness may take notes if that feels appropriate to both parties. The witness should not interrupt the speaker while they are allowing their Yoni to speak.

The Heart Salutation

Begin this practice with a Heart Salutation. This is done by extending your arms towards the earth with your palms together. Then, inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine within yourself and each other. Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands to return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

The Bubble

Now, create a bubble around you (and your partner). Do this by waving your arms around both of you as you define the shape of the bubble that surrounds you. You will then be removing things from this bubble that won’t serve you during this practice (the past, distractions, anger, worry, etc.) Do this by making a gesture as if removing an object from your bubble and verbally share what you are removing from the bubble out loud. Then, Next, state what things you want to bring into the bubble, these are things that will enhance your connection (love, willingness, presence, trust etc.) Make a gesture as if physically bringing them into the bubble. Creating the bubble helps to call you into present moment awareness and creates a safe space in which to practice Yoni Talk

Share Your Desires, Fears and Boundaries

Once the bubble is created, share your intentions/desires, fears and boundaries related to this practice. First, one person speaks while the other person listens without judgment or commentary. Then you switch roles. Here is an example:

“I desire to stay present, open and connect deeply my Yoni.”

“My fear is that I will get self-conscious and freeze up.”

“My boundary is to stay connected, to feel what is arising and share even if I start to cry.”

Why boundaries? When I teach this practice in my classes, people often have resistance to setting boundaries. I explain that boundaries are not walls, they are bridges. Bridges helps to bring people together. Intimacy happens when people have healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries allow you to feel safe, stay open and be present. Boundaries are dynamic, so it is important to check-in periodically with yourself to see if your boundaries have changed. If they have changed, update your partner so they can honor your new boundaries. Here are a few examples:

“I need to end this practice by 10 pm.”

“I want to stay present and open to your support. I would like you to remind me to open my eyes if I seem to be disconnecting from you.”

Yoni Talk

Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Take slow, gentle, relaxing breaths into your belly. Relax deeply for about several minutes. As your exhale, breathe out any tension you are holding. As you inhale, breathe in life force energy (pnana/chi/ki) and feel your body becoming energized. Once you are relaxed, focus your attention on your Yoni and place your hands over Yoni. Breathe into Yoni and begin to tune into this part of your body. Ask her what she would like to be called ( Sacred Flower, Cosmic Cave or..) Invite her to speak.Say out loud, something like “Sacred Flower, (use the name she has shared with you,) I desire to receive your wisdom and invite you to speak to me and give you my voice.” Then allow Yoni to speak to you, in the first person, “I,Sacred Flower, want to share that I have been feeling ignored lately. I notice you … I would like…. It would be helpful if…” Continue to tune in for 15 minutes or longer. There may be phases as the information is accessed. Stay present with the process until it feels complete. End with a Heart Salutation.

If you are alone, take time to journal. If you are with a friend, share your experience verbally. Take a short break and then switch roles.

Notice how this experience impacts your life over the next few days and weeks.

Copyright 2012 Crystal Dawn Morris. Adapted from The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand.

Crystal Dawn Morris, The Love and Freedom Coach

Contact Crystal@Tantraforawakening.com 928-282-5483  www.tantraforawakening.com

Chicagoland Women Reclaim Their Sexual Radiance

I am very excited about teaching Women Healing Women: Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance in the Chicago area. Cheryl Good and I taught it in Sedona, AZ in April, 2013. All the women who attended were deeply transformed. As a Certified Nurse-Midwife for almost 25 years, I have been aware, of the need for this type of healing process for women for a long time. I believe if every woman went through this process, the world would be radically changed for the better. Imagine a world full of passion and compassion, where all beings are treated with love, honor and respect. If you are feeling called to reclaim your feminine power I look forward to seeing you there.

Women Healing Women: Reclaiming Our Sexual Radiance

September 6 at 7:00pm until September 8 at 5:00pm in Deerfield, IL

Do you want to live in a world where women are free to celebrate their full sexual radiance without fear, where sexuality is honored and celebrated as a gift of creation? Join us this weekend and you will:

• Reclaim your sexual power
• Honor your body and your beauty
• Celebrate pleasure and sensuality
• Transform beliefs and heal the past
• Recognize the goddess within
• Know you are whole and complete

Please join us for a weekend of deep transformation. Access your innate sexual power through hands-on healing and sacred ritual. This workshop is open to all women 18 and older, who are ready to step into their power and want to love themselves fully.

Price $325 (Early bird special-$285 if paid in full by August 24th.) This event will be held in a beautiful, private retreat space in the Chicagoland area, location given at registration. To register contact Cheryl at goodflute@yahoo.com 847-624-8926

Workshop testimonial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1JKtQOGPzg

Workshop Facilitators
Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher and intimacy coach. She has worked in women’s health as a RN, NP and Certified Nurse- Midwife since the 1980’s.Her mission is to be a catalyst for global transformation- to create a world based on love, respect and compassion for all beings. She is dedicated to guiding people to live a more conscious, connected and juicy life that celebrates love and freedom. Crystal teaches internationally. Contact info: crystalsedona@gmail.com 928-862-0762 www.TantraforAwakening.com

Cheryl Good, Masters of Arts in Teaching, Certified Advanced Energy Healer, is passionate about creating dynamic environments for transformation. She weaves her experiences as an educator, professional flutist and Tantric energy healer, into her sessions and workshops, allowing her participants to dive deeply inward. Greater spiritual, sexual and emotional freedom is the result. She is the co-founder of Love and Sex Mastery and S.T.I.R. -Sedona Transformational Intensive Retreat.
Her website is www.loveandsexmastery.com

Tantra 4 Awakening in Montreal, June 28-30

Discover the Magic of SkyDancing Tantra

June 28-30, 2013 in Montreal, Canada

Friday 7 pm-10 pm:  Heart Puja, Open to the Public, Cost $25

Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm – Sunday 10am-6pm

Awakening the Ecstatic Body Weekend: From Sexual Union to Spiritual Communion

  • Explore Masculine and Feminine Energy
  • Feel Polarity Between Presence & Radiance
  • Clear Obstacles to Deep Love and Intimacy
  • Open to the Deeper Truth of Your True Nature
  • Experience Merging with the Divine in a Tantric Ritual

In this experiential weekend workshop you will learn how to gracefully navigate the dance of polarities,  keep your heart open, share your truth, heal the shadow, live more in the Now and melt into ecstasy. Discover how your relationships can become a doorway into communion with the Divine. You will leave this weekend feeling more connected, present and aware with a tool kit for creating bliss in your life and relationships. This event is open to individuals and couples. There is no nudity in this class.

These workshops are facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher. Crystal is known for her ability to create a safe space where magic unfolds. Her workshops and coaching sessions give people practical tools for ecstatic living. She will be assisted by Jim  Miller.

Cost $250 individuals, $400 couples.

Important Note: You do not have to have experienced Level 1 or 2 to participate in Level 3. The course is designed to welcome beginners, as well as experienced students of Tantra.

Reserve your space now! Follow this link:
https://mondeose.com/Events/2013-06-28/Open-Puja-and-Tantra-for-Awakening-Level-3-%E2%80%93-Montreal

For more information contact Crystal Dawn or Frank Mondeose.

The Alchemy of Sacred Relating

I have been in a crucible of transformation which began May 7th with me co-facilitating the, Level One Spiritual Sexual Shamanic Practitioner Training, with Baba Dez Nichols. Learn more about it at: https://schooloftemplearts.org/ . This training is the foundational work required to bring you into a place a presence and internal ease so you can begin holding space for others in their healing process. This was my forth time of being exposed to this work and it was anchored within me in a whole new way. I am now in day 4 of the Level Two SSSPT which a process of totally integrating and coming into inner harmony no matter what things look or feel like. Very powerful work. Level 2 includes 3 powerful initiations- 1) spiritual, 2) shamanic and 3) sexual. Tonight will will be exploring Sacred Union, which begins within our own being first. The Universe, being very generous, placed this article in my inbox this morning. I hope you enjoy it as much as I am. It can be found at https://tomkenyon.com/alchemyofrelationship .

The Alchemy of Relationship by Tom Kenyon

This article was taken from the Magdalen Manuscript (ORB Communications).

Many of us do relationships the way we play poker. We do everything possible to get the upper hand. And if that fails, we bluff. We pretend to hold cards we don’t have. We cheat. We lie.

And while this is the model for many a relationship in our post modern era, it is not the model for Sacred Relationship as described in the Manuscript.

Let me be very up front here. Sacred Relationship is not for everyone. In fact, I suspect that there are far fewer persons capable or even willing to undertake it than there are those who prefer to play emotional card games.

This type of relationship demands utmost honesty both with oneself and with one’s partner. Instead of hiding our cards, we lay them all out on the table. All our hopes, all our fears, all our petty and jealous thoughts, all our conniving: all of it gets laid out in the clear light of awareness for our partner to see. And he or she must do the same. It will not work if there are back doors unlocked with mental escape in mind. It will not work if both partners are not absolutely impeccably honest with each other. And the reason for this radical type of honesty is that without it, the Alchemy of Relationship cannot take place. Now this may be a new term to many, even students of internal alchemy, since the dynamics of intimate relationship are rarely discussed in the four major alchemical streams (Egyptian, Taoist, Yoga Tantra and Buddhist Tantra).

So I think it might be good to define what I mean here, and to lay some type of foundation. Like all types of alchemy, this type of work is about changing one form into another. The form, in this case, is the inter-dynamics that have become habituated between two people. After a while, people tend to get into ruts. The liveliness that existed at the beginning of the relationship begins to fade. Both people become more or less unconscious. The harsh reality is that it takes continual vigilance and effort to keep a relationship conscious and alive.

Many relationships drop by the wayside because the partners are either unwilling or unable to make the efforts required to sustain them. Instead of experiencing the newness of each moment within the relationship, a kind of dullness seeps in over time; what used to be exciting is now boring. And worse, a kind of psychological and emotional lethargy sets in, and both partners succumb to the dulling effects of unconsciousness.

This type of unconsciousness is a death knell to psychological awareness and insight; and although it is rarely mentioned, this type of unconsciousness has a negative effect on one’s spiritual life as well. So the form that needs to be changed within a relationship is literally the form of interactions that habitually take place between the two partners.
Like all types of alchemy, there must be a container for the reactions to occur. And in this case, it is the container of safety and appreciation that provides the reservoir for transformation. If there is a lack of safety or appreciation, this type of alchemy cannot be undertaken. And if you have decided you wish to try this type of alchemy in your relationship, I suggest you do an analysis first. Honestly assess if you feel safety and appreciation in your relationship. If you don’t, you will be wasting your time trying to undertake this type of alchemy with your current partner. I suggest you focus your efforts, instead, on the solitary practices mentioned in the Manuscript. If you still want to give it a try, get your partner to talk about these feelings of danger and lack of appreciation that you are feeling. Only if and when they get resolved, should you consider taking on this type of alchemy.

So now we have two of the three elements needed for alchemy: something to be transformed (the habitual patterns of interaction) and the container (the safety net, if you will, of the relationship itself). A third element is needed; and that is, of course, energy to drive the reaction. There is usually plenty of energy in relationships in the form of neurotic patterns, hopes, fears, and desires. We’ll get to those in a moment, but for now I want to talk about steel.

Our psychological selves are much like swords made from steel alloys. They have been forged in the hot searing foundry of our childhood, in the formative pressures of our early experiences. It is this early period of life that bonds the elements of our psyches together. And like steel, this was done under immense heat and pressure. Some of us were abused by overbearing or downright hostile or even destructive parents. Some of us were left to our own devices without any kind of support or guidance. And every kind of parental/child relationship falls in between these two polarities. The possibilities of childhood pressures are virtually endless, and so too are the psychological alloys that result from these types of experiences.

There is a lot of talk about the child within in many personal growth groups, and while there is certainly value in making contact with this younger self, it is not always pretty. Our cultural myth is that childhood is a time of innocence, a time in which everything is right with the world. For some children this is true; for many it is definitely not.

I remember being at a fellow therapist’s house for a party quite a few years ago. Most of the adults were practicing therapists, psychologists or psychiatrists. I had plopped myself in a big oversized sofa, and, sipping my Pepsi, I noticed a remarkable event. One of the therapists had brought his son and his son’s best friend to the party. It was clear that the two boys were buds. They were playing some kind of card game and respectfully giving each other a turn. There were no attempts at cheating, and they seemed to be in a bubble of camaraderie.

Then the boy’s father came into the room and asked both kids if they needed anything. They both looked up with cherub faces and smiled. No they said, in the cutest little boy voices. The father patted his son on the back, and as he walked off, he nonchalantly patted his son’s friend on the back as well. For a moment, his son looked at the incident in abject horror. You could see that he could not believe his eyes. And then as his father turned the corner into the other room, his son pulled back and hit his best friend in the face! This was not childhood innocence. This was childhood rage. He was not willing to share affections from his father, not even with his best friend. This type of jealousy is typical of higher mammals, and we are, for all our self-righteous self-congratulatory delusions, still mammals. No matter how high we get spiritually, we will, for as long as we live, share traits with our mammalian brothers and sisters.

The inner life of a child is often far different than those around him or her imagine it to be. Surrounded by both dangers and opportunities, the psychological life of a child is directly shaped by how he or she chooses to deal with them. Whether it is something as life threatening as a deranged parent or a child molester, or seemingly innocuous as whom to go to the prom with, does not in some ways matter. While the impact of fighting for one’s life may very well imprint a child’s behavior well into adulthood, the little decisions of life, like who to socialize with or not, also have impact. All these major and minor decisions create internal psychological heat and pressure. The alloys of one’s personality get bonded together or burned away. The sword has been tempered by the time we reach adulthood, and the alloy of our personalities has been set. Some of us emerge from this childhood foundry with rock hard edges; others of us are blunt. Some of us hold our edges, and some of us can never seem to hold anything.

The thing about steel is that it tends to remain in its original form once it leaves the foundry. And one of the few things that can ever re-configure the alloy is if the steel gets as hot as it did when it was first formed. In the alchemical work of Sacred Relationship, we voluntarily put ourselves back in the foundry. The heat that arises between two people when their neuroses rub against each other can get quite intense. If both people can find the courage to be radically honest with themselves and with each other in these searing moments, the psychological alloys can be altered. A new type of aliveness then enters the relationship fueled by the energy of psychological truth.

The thing is–most of us will do almost anything to avoid psychological heat. When we get uncomfortable, many of us get the hell out of Dodge. Now for some of us this means literally packing up and getting out of town, or at least out of sight. For some of us it means that we are physically present, but no longer emotionally present. We numb up. We become automatons. We move and talk, almost like normal, but we have retreated far, far inside. Others of us numb ourselves with alcohol or drugs. And some of us do it with television. We humans are, after all, quite clever and creative. We can find all sorts of ways to avoid facing ourselves. In fact, they are far too numerous for me to list here. But I suspect you get the idea. I guess the real question here is this–what do you do when things get psychologically too hot for your taste? What do you do when you are on the verge of feeling something that you don’t want to feel?
For those in Sacred Relationship such feelings are a call to presence. It is a time to be radically honest, and for both partners to express their true feelings no matter how embarrassing or scary they might be. By speaking their truths to each other, an enlivening element enters the dynamic. Psychological honesty results in psychological insight. And with insight there is hope for awareness, and with awareness there can be change. This chapter is hardly a manual for the Alchemy of Relationship. It’s mainly, I think, a warning. Magdalen alluded to this in the Manuscript. She called it obscurations to flight. That sounds wonderfully exotic doesn’t it? Well, it isn’t very exotic when the obscuration is clearly in your face. And it isn’t very exotic feeling when the foundry of the relationship gets so hot that you feel you are dissolving (psychologically that is). It takes courage and fortitude to stay in the foundry when the heat begins to weaken the stability of one’s self-perceived image. Few of us care to look foolish, scared, petty or jealous. And we will often go through elaborate means to hide these feelings from ourselves or others.

But in Sacred Relationship these things invariably float to the surface like mud that has been stirred up from the bottom of a barrel. The thing is to realize that this does not mean you are doing it (Sacred Relationship) wrong; it means that you are probably doing it right. As Magdalen said in the Manuscript, the power of the alchemy extrudes, or pushes out, the dross. This can be fascinating when the dross is being pushed out of your partner, but it is truly horrific when it extrudes out of you.

What makes Sacred Relationship sacred is that it is truly a holy way of being. The root of the word holy actually means to make whole. So… when we do something that creates wholeness (in this case psychological wholeness), we are engaged in a sacred or holy act.

In the crucible of mutual safety, honesty and appreciation, it is possible to forge a new kind of self. This new self is psychologically more honest, more aware and freer than its counterpart before entering the foundry of relationship. And like the phoenix that arises from its own ashes, this self has wings. It can fly places that it could only imagine before.

There are mysteries here, and treasures that await those who have the courage to enter the depths of themselves and their partners. It is not, as I said, for everyone. You will probably know if you are a likely candidate because you will feel it in your soul, your heart.

If you enter this path, know that there are no manuals. There is precious little guidance out there. The path to spirituality has traditionally been one of solitude. And while times of solitude may be necessary for those in Sacred Relationship, something has turned. They agree to walk the path to godhood together, side by side, through both heaven and hell, through the brilliant summits where all things are suddenly crystal clear, and through the dark valley of psychological death where it is hard to even see one’s foot in front of the other. And yet through the darkness of not knowing, a deep primordial force begins to rise up. It requires an unusual type of holy trinity – three things for it to do its most holy task- mutual safety, psychological honesty and appreciation of the Beloved.
Have a good journey!

© 2012 Tom Kenyon. All rights reserved.
You may make copies of this message and distribute it in any media as long as you change nothing, do not charge for it, credit the author, and include this complete copyright notice and web address.

The Safe Sex Talk and Sharing Your Sexual History

Sexual attraction is a fact of life. We meet that special someone and Bang! A powerful connection is made that leads an irresistible desire to have sex. It may be more common when you are young, single and feeling a bit impulsive, but it can happen to anyone, at any age.  We call it “sexual chemistry.” However, mixing chemicals can be dangerous if you lack information about how they will react when mixed together. Having unprotected sex with someone, without knowing their sexual history and is just as risky as mixing two unknown chemicals together. Sometimes the result maybe life threatening, sometimes a non-event and on rare occasions an amazing discovery is made.

Having the Safe Sex Talk

Sex is a healthy part of life and a powerful way to share love and intimacy. It is important to learn how to be clear and honest about your sexual history before engaging in sex. Unprotected sex can lead to infection, pregnancy, infertility, and life-threatening diseases.

  1. Know your own sexual history. Get tested for sexually transmitted infections (STI’s) regularly.
  2. Practice sharing your sexual history with a friend so you are comfortable talking about it.
  3. Get educated about STI’s- know their prevalence, risks, and treatments.
  4. Commit to discussing safer sex before engaging in any exchange of body fluids.
  5. Have the discussion in a neutral atmosphere, not as you are about to climb in bed together.
  6. Be prepared, carry condoms with you and know how to use them. Practice before hand.
  7. Know your bottom line. What risks are you NOT willing to take? Be ready to say NO!
  8. Pregnancy is also a risk of unprotected intercourse. Use birth control if you don’t want a baby.
  9. If you have taken risks in the past, don’t be afraid to get tested and treated.
  10. Love yourself enough to set healthy boundaries and honor them.

How to Begin

When you meet someone and feel that sexual chemistry is there be aware that you need to have the safer sex talk before you find yourself in a sexually charged situation. When the time feels right begin by acknowledging the attraction you feel. “Ever since we met I have been aware that I am very attracted to you sexually.” Find out if the feeling is mutual. There is no need to share your history with someone who has no desire to be sexual with you. If they are also interested in becoming sexually involved then tell them you would like to set aside a time to have a discussion about safer sex and to share your sexual histories with each other.

Getting Tested

Depending on how sexually active you have been, the last time you were tested and any risky behaviors you may have had since then, you may choose to go and get an STI exam and HIV test before you have the safer sex talk. This way you will have current information to share either before or shortly after your discussion. The testing can be done with your doctor’s office, at a public health center, or family planning clinic. STI’s tests may include: Chlamydia, Gonorrhea (the Clap), Syphilis, Candida (yeast infection), Hepatitis B, Herpes simplex 1 and 2, HIV, HPV (genital warts and cervical dysplasia), Crabs, and Trichomonis (trich). While you are there ask any questions you have and pick up information about birth control, STI’s and HIV.

Having the Talk

Meet in a private place when you won’t be disturbed. Make sure you have a couple of hours set aside so that you don’t have to stop in the middle. Turn off your cell phones. Bring your test results with you if you have them. One powerful way to begin is by each sharing your intention for this communication, any fears or concerns you have about this talk and any boundaries you need to express. A boundary is what you need to feel safe and stay open, it is not a wall, it is a bridge to help you stay present. A healthy boundary for this communication might be to agree that whatever is shared will remain confidential. Another type of boundary is, “I need to end by 10 pm.”

Then agree who will go first. Only one person should speak at a time. The other person listens quietly and only interrupts if they need to clarify a specific detail. When the first person is complete then switch roles. Topics to cover may include:

  • History of STI’s. Were they successfully treated? Last date tested.
  • HIV risks- IV drug use, unprotected anal sex, homosexual encounters, and unprotected sex with prostitutes. The results of your last HIV test results. Any risks since then?
  • History of risky behavior- unprotected sex or partners who had unprotected sex. IV drug use or partners who used IV drugs. Use of drugs and alcohol during or before sexual activity.
  • The number of sexual partners you have had. The risk of STI’s and HIV increases if you have unprotected sex with multiple partners.
  • History of rape, blood transfusions or other risks.
  • Agreeing to keep each other’s sexual history and test results confidential.

Sexual expression is important part of a healthy life-style and is wonderful way to share love and intimacy. This talk is the beginning of your relating on an intimate level with this person. Honesty is a great way to build respect and trust. Know that you are responsible for the choices you make. Only you can protect yourself. Don’t rely on someone else to protect you. Sex involves risk, as does all of life.  By practicing safer sex you are limiting the risks you are taking. You are making conscious choices and accepting the possible risks involved. The only 100% guarantee for avoiding the risk of STI’s and pregnancy is abstaining from sexual contact. I hope that this article supports you in having a healthy and enjoyable sex-life.

Copyright 2012 Crystal Dawn Morris

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Crystal Dawn Morris is a Certified Sky Dancing Tantra Teacher and the founder of Tantra for Awakening. She is committed to creating a more conscious and compassionate world. She offers Tantra workshops, Intimacy Coaching and Couples Retreats. She teaches a Tantra Teacher Certification program called The Art and Business of Teaching Tantra. She lives in Sedona, AZ where she practices yoga, writes and enjoys life. She loves to travel and is open to teaching and coaching in your community.

SkyDancing Tantra Workshop in Sedona May 19-20

May 19-20, 2012
Awakening the Ecstatic Body: Opening the Path to Bliss
Saturday 9:30am-9:30pm and Sunday 10am-6pm
Sedona, AZ

Sedona School of Temple Arts 2945 Southwest Dr, Sedona, AZ

• Open you Inner Flute
• Explore and attune your chakras
• Expand your ability to tap into bliss
• Learn to communicate your desires effectively

By the end of the weekend you will feel an expanded flow of energy, awareness, and ecstasy throughout your being. You will leave this weekend with tools to create a more joyful, pleasure-filled, awakened life. This weekend is open to individuals and couples. There is no nudity in this class.

Investment: $275/ couples $500. Register by emailing Crystal@Tantraforawakening.com

This workshop is facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher, assisted by Jim Miller. Crystal is known for her ability to create a safe space where magic unfolds. Her workshops and coaching sessions give people practical tools for ecstatic living.

Please call or email with questions or concerns.

For additional information call Crystal at 928-282-5483/ cell 928-862-0762

Email Crystal@TantraforAwakening.com

Practice the Art of Chakra Talk

Chakra Talk

This practice allows you to access the wisdom held in your chakra energy centers. You will lend your voice to the chakra center you want to communicate with it in a direct way. The more you are able to relax and surrender the easier it is to access the wisdom of your chakras speaking  in their unique voice.

Set aside 30-60 minutes for this practice. Make sure the phone is off and that you won’t be disturbed. This can be done alone or with a partner. If done alone have your journal nearby so you can take notes. You may also choose to record the experience. If done with a partner, only one person speaks and the other acts as a witness. They may take notes if that feels appropriate to both parties. The witness should not interrupt the speaker while the chakra is talking.

Begin with a Heart Salutation. Sit across from your partner and look into their eyes. Maintaining eye contact throughout the rest of the process, begin by extending your arms towards the earth, palms together. Then, inhale and keeping your hands in prayer position, bring them to your heart. Exhale, as you bow forward and acknowledge the Divine in each other with the Sanskrit salutation “Namaste.” Namaste means “I honor the Divine in you as a reflection of the Divine in me.” Inhale, as you straighten back up. Finally, exhale as you allow your hands to return to the starting position, pointed towards the earth.

Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Now,  direct your attention to the chakra you are going to listen to. Take slow, gentle, relaxing breaths into your belly. Relax deeply for about several minutes. As your exhale, breathe out any tension you are holding. As you inhale, breathe in life force energy (pnana/chi/ki) and feel your body being energized.

When you are relaxed, focus your attention on the chakra you feel called to connect with. Place your hands over the area related to that particular chakra. Breathe into it and begin to tune into the energy of this chakra. Invite it to speak through you, say (the name of the chakra,) Example- “Heart, I desire to receive your wisdom and invite you to speak to me through my voice.”

Then allow the chakra to speak to you, in the first person, “I, Heart, want to share that I have been feeling ignored lately. Crystal has been… I would like…. It would be helpful if…” Continue to tune in for 5-10 minutes or longer. There may be pauses as the information is accessed. Stay present with the process until it feels complete.

End with a Heart Salutation.

Adapted from The Art of Everyday Ecstasy by Margot Anand

Copyright 2010 Crystal Dawn Morris   www.TantraForAwakening.org